I need some more girl help.

[Jaged]

I know I said I was gone from PSU, but I have reached a roadblock in the path to getting a girlfriend, and I remembered where I always used to go for advice, PSU! Anyway, to the point. There is a girl at school named Stephanie. We are good friends, but unfortunately that is all. I was going to ask her out tomorrow, but after talking to her friend, I realized that Steph only thought of me as a friend. How do I get her to think of me as more than just a friend?




p.s. I am still gone, just temporally back for advice.

[GonePostal]

you and me both pal

stupid ass holes flirtin with my g/f, been doing it for weeks now, its really startin to piss me off (they take it to an extreme when they start touchin her)

[Jaged]

Huh, thats not my problem, I don't have a gf yet. Did you read my post?

[GonePostal]

:rofl:

ye, i cant give much advice though im sort of a fuck up when it comes to girls, im just an asshole sometimes

if she wants to be just friends then there isnt much you can do, but you could tell her how you feel( if ya got the balls) and it might put you closer, or it could backfire

ask tek though

[Jaged]

Postal, you just told me exactly what I needed to hear. I think I will tell her how I feel. Any suggestions on how to do this? Remember she dosent know that I know that she wants to be friends.

[Squeeky]

Jaged,
Though you flamed me young padawan, i will give you some advice.

Tell her how you feel. Don't feel emberassed or corny, tell her how you really feel and be sincere. Don't giggle, don't smirk, just be up front with her. Girls love that, i'm talking from experience. I was in a similar situation, and girls love it when an honest guy doesn't beat around the bush. But steps up to the plate and tells her whats up. Goodluck

[GonePostal]

hahaha he just called you a young padawan!

girls are the ones that beat around the bush all they do is play games.

but really squeekys got the right idea, just tell her you need to talk to her sometime that day, and just be cool about it.

[JetRaiden]

Tell her how you feel.

Nope. If shes sensitive she'll feel bad for you, and your relationship will be fucked forever. if shes a bitch, she'll turn you down like a soggy tuna sandwich.


the line between good friends and bf/gf is like that big preplexing black wall from Planet of the Apes.

[Squeeky]

Shit Jet. I'm not afraid of being turned down. That's the last thing you need to worry about. Rejection is part of the process of dating. And if you can't take risks or chances you will never succeed.

As for her being a softy, ask her how she feels about YOU honestly. Tell her you won't be mad, you just wanna know if there is some basis for a relationship or if she'd be willing to develop one.

[Jaged]

Thanks Squeeky. I know this is kinda derailing my own thread, but I want to leave PSU on good terms with you. Im sorry I don't feel good about giving you such a hard time. Can you forgive me? Anything you said to me is forgiven.

[Squeeky]

:lol:

All is well on my end Jaged. I never hold grudges and forgot hating you after a week, it's all good in the neighborhood :).

Now back to discussing my Hobby, girls :chill:

[GonePostal]

alright, ignore everything raiden just said, even that important part about that black wall and planet of the apes.

let her know you dont want her to do the whole pitty routine for a week, and if she is your friend she most likely wont be a bitch unless you harass her about it. ask her if it is at all possible and to be completely honest.

and if all else fails, ill sell you some roofies :brow:

edit: lol somebody needs to videotape squeeky laying the moves on a chick, i would pay to see squeeky mackin on some girl :rofl: :rofl:

[Black]

:rofl:

ye, i cant give much advice though im sort of a fuck up when it comes to girls, im just an asshole sometimes


SOMETIMES thats such horse shit

[Jaged]

Glad thats over, lol.

Anyway, thanks for the advice everyone, it is really helping. I think she is the kind of girl that will find it cute. I think that telling her I like her could only have a positive effect on our relationship.

[JetRaiden]

ehh....it depends on the girl....ok, I'll be honest, if you can take rejection, tell her how you feel...otherwise, seek her friends for advice, if they're up for it. good luck. :groovy:


p.s.
Dont take that planet of the apes stuff so literally.

[GonePostal]

:rofl: horse shit, i love that.

btw i will pwn you but my brain is locking up im doing to much research and whoring the forums

ill be watching you...

[Khronos]

good advice squeeky :)

just one thing you have to know, jaged, is that you might be risking losing her as a real "good friend" as you put it...
hopefully, she will understand and you guys will still be good friends :)

actually, hopefully she feels the same way about you and was just too shy to say so in the first place ;)

good luck :love:

[Black]

:rofl: horse shit, i love that.

btw i will pwn you but my brain is locking up im doing to much research and whoring the forums

ill be watching you...
:fu:

[Jaged]

I don't see how telling a girl you like her could be a turn off. Why would that possibly jeopardize our relationship.

[GonePostal]

black i thought you put me on ignore?

stalker!!!!1

[Squeeky]

Because there is such a huge difference between a friendship, and relationship. If she dumps you, you guys may stop being friends. There is a possibility. So if your willing to take that risk go for it. It all depends man.....

[Black]

Changed my mind :p

[Khronos]

its not always a turn off :p
im just saying that *some* girls seem to feel uncomfortable after you tell them that you like them..and stuff just doesnt seem to be the same again.

[GonePostal]

Changed my mind :p


haha! i knew it

you cant resist me! :groovy:

[Jaged]

Yeah, of course actualy becoming her boyfriend is a risk if she dumps me, but just telling her that i am interested in her, how is that dangerous?

Edit: this is a popular thread, people keep responding before i can get a word in.

[Black]

:rofl:

[Squeeky]

Yeah, of course actualy becoming her boyfriend is a risk if she dumps me, but just telling her that i am interested in her, how is that dangerous?

im just saying that *some* girls seem to feel uncomfortable after you tell them that you like them..and stuff just doesnt seem to be the same again.

[Jaged]

He replied before i could get a post in.

[JetRaiden]

Hey, if you wanna take the risk, go for it. But check around first, so you're not just blind-shooting.

[Jaged]

what do you mean by blind shooting?

[Khronos]

but things *can* happen that are pretty amazing..

i recently took a risk like that, and i have never been happier :love:

[Squeeky]

I took that risk with Nikki. We are now still friends, and we make out on occasion so it's all good :)

[Khronos]

btw Nikki = Khronos. :brow:


anyways..
its up to you if you're gonna ask her, Jaged.
I dont know the extent of your current relationship..but if you are willing to take the risk (which she may not even mind..) then go for it and again, good luck.

[GonePostal]

what do you mean by blind shooting?


dont worry bout it he doesnt know either.

j/k lol

OMGSQUEEKSMAKESOUTWITHKRONOSIMJEOLOUS!!!!

[JetRaiden]

basically, what we're all saying is:

If you're willing to take the risk, go for it.

[Phaden]

Ok, i started hanging out with a Girl that was my friend and ex-GF from highs chool last year. I really had still liked her and it was 3 years in the past when i dated her before. So finally i got the balls to say something to her and she said she felt the same way. I really wish i would have told her sooner.

But the moral of the story is: Maybe feel out the situation by asking her out on a friendly "date/meeting with few people" where you can ask her, if there's chemistry. BTW, how old are you as im not sure how well this works on younger girls. Im 20 ad we have been going out steady for a year, and yes if you think she likes you, jump on it!

[Paingiver]

man i suck at girls, im the shyest guy in the grade, and trust me, girls dont go for the shy "men of few words" ,it sucks. im screwed for now.

[eXoSloth]

Ha ha ha I'm am like super-shy

But, acording to one of my friends-that- is-a-girl, I got like 5 or six chicks after me :huh:

Maybe it's because I'm tall or something. I've heard chicks dig tall guys :brow:

[GonePostal]

:brow: ya know what they say about tall guys!

big feet

im loud and obnoxious at times, and other times im just laid back and chilled

[ZionsFire]

:brow: ya know what they say about tall guys!

big feet

im loud and obnoxious at times, and other times im just laid back and chilled

Aye GonePostal, I'm the same way.

[GonePostal]

all depends on the high :groovy:

know what they say about big feet?

big shoes!

[JetRaiden]

:lol:

14 1/2 here baby!

[Phaden]

Chicks dig funny, but not forced funny, thats a bad nono, ask my bro! But seriously dont be something your not, as you can find one that will like you fo who you are. AS Christopher Rock said, "Two crackheads will be together forever, cause they into what the other is into" - Not quite exactly what said but good enough.

[GonePostal]

your shoes or your age?

if thats your shoes! holy FUCK!!


edit: i think your on the crack, crackheads stick together cause they need somebody to mooch crack off of when theyre broke

[JetRaiden]

thats my shoe....punkk...im 16. o wait my mistake its 14 not 14 1/2

[GonePostal]

HOLY HELL!

BEHEMOTH!!

lol i got 12 1/2 at the most

[AztecWarrior]

I'm almost 6 feet, 15, and my feet are size 12.

This is bad. During rowing, the shoes are tied to the boat, The problem is that these are also size 12.

If I grow anymore, there could be consequences. :(

[eXoSloth]

I'm like 5'10", 13 and shoe size 10.

[Flammey]

I'm 25, single, and have always been single, and still a virgin...Uh, I would say I'm the wrong person to give advice about women.

[Kaikou]

Think of it this way... If she likes you as a friend, then thats that. You can try to change stuff but that'd involve quite a bit of effort. She'd also have to know your intentions. You don't necessarily have to "ask her out" (where I come from thats like, asking if it's OK for you to be their boyfriend, you know, that junior high approach to things, I guess it never died down into highschool) maybe arrange a movie or something, perhaps with other friends including her the first time, and work your way up to a "just the two of you" movie. There are a bunch of webpages out there that have these indepth descriptions of what girls might do around you if they like you. Usually those are bogus though, so don't rely on them. You can always just treat her as a friend yourself if you don't think she's ready for a relationship with you though. More often than not, good friendships between a guy and a girl will turn into something more than just friendship.

Either way though, it'd probably be best to just tell her how you feel, if she rejects you, it isn't the end of the world. At least you would be able to move on rather than not telling her. Believe me, it happened to me once, I didn't say anything, waited for her to make a move, which didn't happen, and though I got over her, it took a long time for me to even get enough courage to talk to her again.

Lots of girls like persistant guys though. Not in such a way that you never let her out of your sight, but not giving up after first rejection.

Hope that helps.

[Black]

15, size of shoe 12 and im 6 ft 3 and proud of my hight to :D

[Spider]

Really sorry jaged... can't help you :ugh:.

Heck, I don't even know how I got my girl :huh: it just happened...

[Nimbus]

Oy. I've been in this sitation before.
Hokay, if you don't do anything, chances are you'll obsess over her and be generally depressed because you aren't getting anywhere.
If you DO tell her, there are a lot of things that can happen, not all of them are good. I've gotten girlfriends this way, I've also lost friends completely this way.
Point is, if you don't tell her, you'll almost certainly be depressed over it, if you do tell her, you've at least got a shot.