I don't get women.....

[Jaged]

Girls are too complicated. You probably all remember when I was so excited about Stephanie accepting my invation to the dance. Well the damn dance got cancled. I asked her if she wanted to do anything else with me on that day. She said no. Now my question is, why would someone say yes to going out with me on thrusday and no on tuesday? :confused: :confused:

[firecrackerNC]

dont ask us,ask her

[Sputty]

Girls are too complicated.
Or maybe you're too simple :p ;)

Well, a dance is important to a girl, it's a social event. She doesn't want you as a friend, she wants you as a date. She may have also been sad about that. I'm not saying I understand women but girls around that age aren't really that hard to understand

[Jaged]

I will, but I am impatient, and looking for any kind of understanding I can get before school tomorrow.

[ultraviolet]

Why don't you ask her if she wants to go to dinner instead? Or to a local teen club/dance place (if you have one)? Or watch a movie?

Yes, women are too damn complicated. I'm the first to admit it, too. I don't understand myself or my feelings about half the time.

What I'd like to know is why men take me for granted.

Oh, and about what age are we talking here?

[Jaged]

Im 15, shes 14.

[ultraviolet]

Hrm... Ask her if she'd like to do something else? I'd have a couple other examples of something date-like, like what I previously mentioned. :)

[Jaged]

I said almost those exact words after I told her about the dance being cancled. I got a "no, thats ok" and we both kind of just walked away.

[JetRaiden]

Girls are too complicated. You probably all remember when I was so excited about Stephanie accepting my invation to the dance. Well the damn dance got cancled. I asked her if she wanted to do anything else with me on that day. She said no. Now my question is, why would someone say yes to going out with me on thrusday and no on tuesday? :confused: :confused:

well, dances are alot more easy to accept for chicks, but going out alone is a step above that, because at a dance they can ditch you any time they want, and everyone will be there anyway.

[GonePostal]

she doesnt really like you, she just felt bad for you cause a couple of her friends made fun of you, now she is just trying to ditch you

deal with it

[Rayder]

she doesnt really like you, she just felt bad for you cause a couple of her friends made fun of you, now she is just trying to ditch you

deal with it
Most likely

[GonePostal]

thats why i didnt put j/k at the bottum of that

[JetRaiden]

she doesnt really like you, she just felt bad for you cause a couple of her friends made fun of you, now she is just trying to ditch you

deal with it


:banplz:



Evertime GonePostal posts he expresses negativity. Ban him! Anyway, yea, that may be true, but most likely not. ANd even if it was you dont shove it in their face. Learn how to respect other people. If I knew where you lived I'd paint your house!

[GonePostal]

id kick your ass then paint your house a bright orange :D

its not negative im just telling the truth, lying to people can have serious emotional effects on them :rolleyes:

[Jaged]

she doesnt really like you, she just felt bad for you cause a couple of her friends made fun of you, now she is just trying to ditch you

deal with it
Please never post something like that in one of my threads again. :rolleyes:

[MrVulcan]

A wise man once said:
"The man who understands women shall rule the universe, for understanding women is impossible and ruleing the universe is only very very hard."

[GonePostal]

took it a bit serious eh?


thats a cool saying btw vulcan, whered ya find that?

[Jaged]

Today has not been my day. I am not in the mood for stuff like that.

[Spider]

she doesnt really like you, she just felt bad for you cause a couple of her friends made fun of you, now she is just trying to ditch you

deal with it

Yea... that coming from a 15 year old drunk... that's really a word to take.

She might just feel weird now... you didnt really give her any time to think about it. At 14 it might not seem important but a first eventual love/love can be heart-breaking. Maybe she knows that... I know alot of girls who are afraid to love but never even had a relationship...

Kinda complicated to explain... but talk to her... only way to be sure.

[Peacemaker]

H-O-L-Y SHIT, Its mister Vulcan!

Anyways Jagd. Women dont know what they want half the time. Save yourself the trouble and flat out ask her if she likes you or what.

[Robot]

maybe she just felt she would be lame if she didn't have anyone to give with at the dance. there's a whole plethora of reasons. keep trying, but if she doesn't budge, don't keep pushing the envelope.

[Setari]

yea you dont want to be too pushy cuz then they start to not like you...but anyway that's some down luck you had there good luck with whatever happens :thumbsup:

[Squeeky]

What I'd like to know is why men take me for granted.


When you find out let me know ;)

[AztecWarrior]

I think there are two possible reasons
A: She just needed someone to go to the dance with. Sorry to break your heart, but she isn't interested in you at the moment.

B: You were too date-like. Get a bunch of her friends and yours and just go see a movie or something with everyone together.

[Hamma]

Nobody gets women, try as we might we will never understand.

[BUGGER]

But if its just a dance u still got alot of work to do. I mean i could dance wit teh girl i like all night, but that barely means anything.
In other words, the dance ment nothing. You were going to be used. She would've probly just dance once and go wit some other dude unless she felt something during that time wit you. You were thinking 20 steps ahead.


As gonepostal said, deal with it.



Plus asking if she was doing anything that night when the dance was supose to be was just stupid. NEVER say that or anything related to that. (even thought this chick was probly using you, dont say that the next time you ask a girl)

[Ait'al]

Why don't you ask her if she wants to go to dinner instead? Or to a local teen club/dance place (if you have one)? Or watch a movie?

Yes, women are too damn complicated. I'm the first to admit it, too. I don't understand myself or my feelings about half the time.

What I'd like to know is why men take me for granted.

Oh, and about what age are we talking here?
That is the defenition of simple???? Women are simple!!!!! 8\ as complicated as a mossy log! :nod: she just spelled out the whole issue for you. walking bundles of confused emotions. never a trueer word i have ever heard. 8) You just have to pay some damn attention to ther confusioin and your on your way, its easy! Why dont people get that. I guess it helps ive always been around girls and i have a complicated fucked up life. Oh and all the best lovers are recovered fucked up people(for complicated reasons though). 8p Yea you heard me. :brow:


Edit: That was a little off of how i meant it but.... works for me ;) Sorry deep people. Deep fucked up people! 8) Why am i still talking abou this?

Just remember the confused ones are less fun! Wait for one who is intelegent and understands herself. Then walk up to here say hi and Marry her!!! Like when your older though!

[ultraviolet]

Or you could just find a girl who swallows and marry her. That's the advice my bf's friend gave him. ;) I never said I was simple. I agree that women are too complicated! I understand myself well enough and many consider me already marriage material! =p

And <3 to Jaged, sorry you had a bad day. If you need to talk about it, I'm here for ya.

[Jaged]

:love:

[Sputty]

Nobody gets women, try as we might we will never understand.
Maybe I will if I eat more brains
Come here MrVulcan..I need your knowledge + your tasty brain

[WickedDeus]

Im 15, shes 14.

Hmmmm.....that at age are you sure its ok with her parents if she goes on a date? I mean for some parents it ok for a dance since there will be adults there but for an actual date.....dunno(could be a reason she said "no, thats ok". Shit maybe she is busy that day...it wasn't the same as the day of the dance, right? Best thing to do is ask her. Anyway, you shouldn't be to interested in girls unless they live close to you till your 16 anyway....having GFs before that sucks(unless their house is in walking distance) because you can't do anything anyway.

[WickedDeus]

Or you could just find a girl who swallows and marry her.

If only these type of girls existed outside of pr0n movies(hell if only I knew the telephone numbers to some of those pr0nstars) then I would love to pick up a second wife.

[Hamma]

They exist.

[Spider]

They exist.

:nod:

It's proven, 1/10 th of the women swallow!

The rest are bitches! (joking)

[Irenicuz]

I know one. ;)

[Spider]

I know one. ;)

You suck :p!

I know alot of them... most of them are under 18 thought :ugh:.

By the way... if you want a girl not to spit it out. Drink lots and lots of pineapple juice (everyday at least two glasses). I was told it changes the taste (and the girl did tell me after 2 weeks it did! :lol: )

[Irenicuz]

She has a fetish for it... as well as blood and sweat which is really weird, blood being the main one. If she knew I told she'd kill me.......... then drink my blood.

Nice derail whoever started it, I just got on for the ride.

[Spider]

She has a fetish for it... as well as blood and sweat which is really weird, blood being the main one. If she knew I told she'd kill me.......... then drink my blood.

Nice derail whoever started it, I just got on for the ride.

Yea... that's what we call a SYYYCHO!

Kinda like my ex... apparently we slept toghether... thing is... I never even touched her once in a sexual manner and she hasnt either...

Now random people I know that she knows ask me if it's true! :mad:

Run man run!

[Irenicuz]

Lol, I can't man, she swallows.

[Spider]

Lol, I can't man, she swallows.

:lol:

[Mango]

umm..... she swallows and she has a fetish for blood
I'd be worried about losing my wang :doh:

[ultraviolet]

Nothing wrong with swallowing. :-D

[JetRaiden]

Nothing wrong with swallowing. :-D


^ The world needs more people like that.


EDIT: needs more GIRLS like that... :doh:

[ultraviolet]

You would think that my three exes would agree. Guess they don't follow the swallowing rule.. =p

Or maybe I'm just that messed up?

[Irenicuz]

umm..... she swallows and she has a fetish for blood
I'd be worried about losing my wang :doh:

l-l-losing my wang? :scared:

[Mango]

l-l-losing my wang? :scared:
Just be careful with that chick

[Irenicuz]

Known her over a month, she hasn't tried to feed her bloodlust yet... I'm more crazy than her anyways. :brow:

[Flammey]

Don't fucking ask me. I don't know shit about women. Fuck, I've asked women out on dates lots of times, and got turned down every time. So I simply stopped trying.

[ultraviolet]

:love: for Flammey. Sorry to hear that.

[Spider]

Don't fucking ask me. I don't know shit about women. Fuck, I've asked women out on dates lots of times, and got turned down every time. So I simply stopped trying.

Way to give up! :rolleyes:

[Glaynor]

She may have said okay to the dance because that sorta takes the pressure of an actual date off. She may not want to be go out on an actual date. She might not be ready for that, but she might feel comfortable going to the dance with you because it is school related and other people will be there. There would not then be as much pressure as it being an actual date.

Her parents might also not let her go out on dates. That seems pretty young to be going out on dates to me. I think most girls (from what I remember) went out on group dates till they were 16ish. At least from what I remember, but that was also about 15 years ago.

[Pilgrim]

It's all good.

Just make sure, and especially at your age, that dates are group/or very public activities. It'll make her feel more comfortable, make her parents happy with what a nice respectable boy you are, and increase your chances of success.

Also never ask a girl out unless you have a plan, time, place, activity, everything. 1 Chicks dig a man who can plan, and 2 women are suckers for men who look like they're in control (an entire part of planning)

For example:

Pilgrim: Hey how you doing, wanna go out on Friday?
Girl: UMMMM You're kinda as homely as a dirt toellete!
Pilgrim: Yeah and?
Girl: Well I don't, what where you thinking?
Pilgrim: Oh something simple, like dinner, then a movie, classic kinda date.
Girl: OK What do I have to loose but an evening.
Pilgrim: Damn straight, I'll pick you up at 6
Girl: OK, see you then
Pilgrim (under breath) and I'll see if you swallow.
Girl: What?
Pilgrim: Nothing

:)

Also listen for hints, she mentions she want's to see a movie, even if you don;t want to, tell her you were going to go see that and see if she wants to see it with you.

The key to understanding women is to push them to a half-way point, then just finish the deal!

PAX

[Glaynor]

Also, don't make the mistake that most guys do of acting like a bull in a china shop. You don't need to be dominating in the sense of I am the man, this is the date. Go out on a group date with a bunch of people and it will make her feel much more relaxed. It will also help you because there are other people around and talking will be much easier.

One great piece of advice to getting women (because they are fucking nuts) - women do not want men who are pansies or who are obnoxious about how great they are. The best approach I have found is to act like you are interested in her, but that if she doesn't go out with you, you will just find someone else.

Women like attention and want to feel special, but they also don't want a guy who is going to fall all over them and be clingy. But, at the same time they don't want a guy who is aloof. Your approach should always be - I like you, I want to date you, but if you don't want me I am gonna be just fine and gonna get someone else - your loss.

That approach works great. I got lots of women who people thought were ungettable because I didn't suck up to them, but I let them know that I thought they were special.

But then I got married, and well, uh, well - ugh !!!

[kreeten]

Dont let her get to know you too well especially in the beginning. Believe me if you play the mysterious game and dont let her know too much about you she will swallow you whole....they eat it up. Being nice gets you squat.

[BUGGER]

Let me remind you.

Kids.....or teenagers.....err, guys like me.....dont hold relationships that long. My friend like breaks up every week cause the girl just gets bored.



Just a thing to get you thinking.

[ultraviolet]

Pff, that's what relationships are like at that age! Serious dating for me started around 17-18.

[Flammey]

Way to give up! :rolleyes:

Well, it's better than getting turned down all the time. At least if you don't bother asking, she can't say No.

[Ait'al]

They start trying to get you to date them eventually. no biggy!! 8)

[Spider]

Well, it's better than getting turned down all the time. At least if you don't bother asking, she can't say No.

If you don'y bother asking either she can't say yes either.

Rule of thumbs:

1. Don't wait.
2. Don't be dressed like a moron when you ask her out for a DATE!
3. Remember your too old to write letters to ask that kind of shit, or to ask "Wanna be b/f, g/f!?"
4. Don't aim too high! I know this may sound dumb but for some time I went out with ok but not great girls. Within that time I learned alot about women and myself. I changed myself for the best now I can get better girls... in fact, good looking to hot. (Pamela on a 1-10 scale is a definite 9.)

Being mature can help too... so just go up to some girl you know that interests you. Don't even let her get a word out after "Hi" just say it out: Me + you! Dinner friday night I won't take no for an awnser hmk? I'll pick you up at 7!

This techniques leaves them speechless and they usually end up saying fine :p!

Act mature and all be interesting and tadam if your lucky you might just have found a woman!

This was tips by... me... *cough*

Ps. Don't try it if your unsure of yourself only trying to help you, you need confidence to do anything of those.

[ultraviolet]

I would definitely NOT suggest following through with "You and me, dinner? I'll pick you up, and I won't take no for an answer." The only person who did that to me has three distinct characteristics:

1. he's the only guy I have turned down
2. he did take no for an answer (gave up after about 5 minutes of me saying, "I'm going to be doing homework. No.")
3. he didn't know where I lived (thankfully), so he couldn't follow through!

[Squeeky]

Damn that Reverend Nam. So persistant.

[ultraviolet]

*shudder*

Hey at least it actually wasn't him, or Devin for that matter. What is it with me knowing more creepy computer sci/engineers than nice ones (like my friend Jeffpet! who got me started on forums)??

It was this guy in choir with me in HS. *wince* Lame.

[Spider]

I would definitely NOT suggest following through with "You and me, dinner? I'll pick you up, and I won't take no for an answer." The only person who did that to me has three distinct characteristics:

1. he's the only guy I have turned down
2. he did take no for an answer (gave up after about 5 minutes of me saying, "I'm going to be doing homework. No.")
3. he didn't know where I lived (thankfully), so he couldn't follow through!

Ok I do amit I had like 2 mins to type my lil thing but yea... don't follow that it's a guideline! and if you can't get them! Wear them out! :p!

[Jaged]

Thanks for all your help guys. I just want to let you know that it is all good. I brought it up again and found out that the only reason she said no is because that day diddn't work for her. The date is next friday. :p

[Irenicuz]

She wanted you to work for her? Bad sign methinks... sounds like she wants to start using you... but... what do I know? Nothing I tell you, nothing. Good luck though. :)

[JetRaiden]

In Your Face Gonepostal!!

[ultraviolet]

Yay, glad to hear it's working out. :)

[Flammey]

Don't worry UV, I don't follow any GUY's advice on getting a date. Besides that, I know how to play it cool, to be confident. It still doesn't change the outlook.