Is your family screwed up?

[BUGGER]

Well mine kinda is. Actually this is based on a new sibling i found out for myself.


My family is split, dad lives in florida, mom here in ca. They both split within the month I was born. Nothing new, jsut one parent got to keep me happy.

I got a brother, unexpectedly, he was born on a day i was going to do nothing but sit on the couch and watch cartoons. Suddenly my mom is off with paramedics and later i find her in the hospital bed with a little baby which happened to be the little dude. (they happened 6 years ago) Unexpected for me, he just appeared in my life.


Now I just went to florida to see dady and daytona 500 (as yall know), they have a baby. It was almost unexpected....well, atleast I knew before time...by a month, in an email my mom sent on my name and i for some damn reason decided to check all my sent mail. It mentioned some stuff, then baby at the end of the email. I was wts, and then i knew they were due a baby. So when i flew in to florida last saterday, I was prepared for the baby. Yet i found out she was born within the week that email was sent. So the baby just popped out of no where just like my brother (ps its a girl). Now i got a 6 year old bro and a 4 month year old sister.

So whats with these secrets? Ya know it hurts more to not know that someone is goin to be born than to know before hand.


K i REALLY wanted to get that off the top of my head. THx for listening. Now you can go about your fucked up family if ya got one.

[SkunkPunk]

Hmmm, I was born, my dad ran away because he didnt want to take care of me. I met him 3 years ago and got to meet my brother and sister, then i told him to fuck off... lots of people say thats fucked up, but Ive never really thought anything of it. I think my dads in jail now or something : /

[Veteran]

This shoulda been a poll with only one option: "Hell yes".

[Squick]

Lets see... My sister was born when my mother was 19 years old. She beat down on my brother and me. She got hooked on cocaine when she was 15, go thrown in juvi then ran away. I haven't heard from her since, I honestly don't know if she is alive or not.

My father was a deadbeat alcoholic, never worked a day since he got out of the military some fifty years ago.

I guess that counts as "screwed up"

[worldvengence]

my mom was raped...enough said

[Veteran]

My dad was gonna kill me and my little brother with a shotgun, and his brother (my uncle) killed all the animals on our farm one day.

We escaped though. My mom was lucky.

[Ogge]

erhmmm... My father was a alcoholic... he have been sober for about 10 and a half year now

My sister got raped at 14... but the guy who did it lost his arm in a car acident about a year later so he got what he deserved

my sister got sexual abused when she was 7-8... the guy in now a scout leader (!)

My moms father never showed up at her weding so she got depresed and she still is...


o.O

[Dharkbayne]

Yes.

[TheAngelOfWar]

My sister got raped at 14... but the guy who did it lost his arm in a car acident about a year later so he got what he deserved

if he's alive, he hasnt nearly had what he deserves.

[Dharkbayne]

Indeed.

[eXoSloth]

Wow. I feel sorry for most everyone who has posted in this thread :(

Fortunately for me my family isn't screwed up at all.

[Everay]

mine is, but not that much, my mom just came in here and asked if the teacher that comes to my house, and of course, teaches me, ever talks to be about sex, out of the blue O.o

my brother though, takes no responsibility, whenever my mom has to send him out on a errand, and he has to buy something, with her check card, he normaly buys stuff hes not supposed to, and say, when my mom asks him to work around the house to earn that money, he flips out and acts as if hes trying to save the world and cleaning is interfearing, and hes addicted to the computer, and i can barly trust him, because every time i let my guard down, he does something that really pisses me off, and theres no way i can retaliate.

[Rayder]

Pff... steal one of your mom's bras (preferably after she was worn it...) and put it on his face while he's sleeping.

[Everay]

no, i did, err, well, he did something to himself without him knowing, and noone else does, but me, and it was very funny, and i wont tell you. i mean, i can retaliate, but, not as well as him, IE physicaly, since hes so much bigger than i.

[Jennyboo]

My family isen't screwed up :rolleyes: Just this recent stuff with get engaged finally being happy ...my parents do not support me :confused: They don't understand that i have know hamma for like 2 years online ...i tried to explain it but they are "old school" when it come to meeting your "life partner" :doh: We'll needles to say i will always love a respect them but hey i'm in love! and no ones going to spoil that .. i sure they come round ...i;m the only daughter i want my mom and dad at the wedding :love: ....but then again i look at how they got married they were engaged within like 4 months of knowing eachother and my mom was like ummm was expecting when they got married (with my first brother) anywho .. not too messed up just i thought i knew my parent better then i guess i did..disapointing :(

[Jennyboo]

my mom was raped...enough said
So was my mom by her father since she was 5-17 then she ran away got married her first husband beat her the first time on their wedding night :( then she got out of that met my dad and they have been married like 25 years ... she was messed up a long time until she found God now she is fine .. :D i'm happy for her .. i think that probably why she overprotective of me :( :love: i love my mummy :D

[Jennyboo]

if he's alive, he hasnt nearly had what he deserves.
Agreed :mad: :mad: :mad:

[FlakMan]

My family's pretty normal. Except for my dad making perverted comments about me to my girlfriend's ride yesterday, I'd say we're pretty normal.

[SpunkyKuma]

Who's family isn't? I'm almost 30 and I cannot stand my parents, I hesitate to visit them these days, my father rarely talks and is always out of town, my mother still tells me stuff like I don't know how to take care of myself as if I was still 10, my oldest sister sucks up to my grandparents and tells them bullcrap about me and my other sister that makes them not like us as much as they like her, the crap goes on and on.

[Triggar]

I'm only posting how screwed up my family is for the sake of destroying the taboo of it all, and to encourage any one else who's lived through it to talk about it - as we learned at the UN, we are not victims, rather, those who hurt us are abusers.

Dad's bipolar, was abusive to my mother until we were "old enough" (i.e. four years old) to handle being abused on our own. It got so bad that there were multiple occasions that we were in the hospital for "choking on a chicken bone" or "hitting my head on a playground". He cheated on my mom almost constantly until they got divorced, and I hear he's cheating on his new wife now (with a woman with the same name as my sister - eww). Mom got pretty hardcore depressed and we all took a little abuse from her, while she fought her ass off in court with my father who demanded paternity tests for all four of us kids. Cut to today, where I never talk to my father, and my mom is still in court every month fighting for the $60,000 my dad owes her in back child support (he's paid her like, twice, and his family is incredibly loaded). Oh yeah, and there's a warrant out for his arrest because of it, and he's hiding out in Maryland.

[Happy lil Elf]

Nope, immediate familt is for the most part completely stable. Now if you want to talk extended family, then I could tell you some things but then I don't really consider them family for the most part. More like people I might occasionally see every once in awhile and am acquainted with.

[Zatrais]

Immidiate family is pretty normal...

Extended family is fucked up: pushers (hard drugs), mob members, rehabs, divorces, domestic voilence, prison, alchoholism, pikes, robbery etc

Wierd part is that thats all on my dads side, mothers side is all normal hehe.

[Dharkbayne]

my parents do not support me

omfgwtfbanthem :D

[Everay]

omfgwtfbanthem :D

infuckingdeed!


oh, i just thought of something, my father, he sings the same verse in a song, OVER AND OVER!!!oneone11! ok, thats just annoying

but, since i didnt know were talking about extended family, ill add in, my aunt was a stripper, and her first marriage failed, her current husband wanted to, and did, throw a superbowl party, at the time, my new cousin was a week late of being born (according to the due date of course)

my grandmother, is fucking insane, her 3rd husband (1st left her because she cant manage money, spends like theres no tommorow, and her second died all of a suddun, due to heart problems. truth is though, my real grandfather, first one, i saw him 5 times by the time i was 12 or so, thats when he died, i felt sad, but now i realise he was a fucktard, in that, he cared more about his second wife than he did me or my family, he only lived 3 hours away, and my second grandfather, i never took a liking to him, untill he was already dead, unfortunatly, and now, my 3rd grandfather, well, hed be cool, i mean, back in the day, he was in the whole computer biz, but i just dont like him, hell, i was on his computer the other day, and i decided to check out his WMP history, filled with MILF videos. oh, and also, my grandmother has 13 fucking dogs, give or take 2 or 3.

all on my moms side, my fathers side, is relitivly normal, compaired to my moms, but ill admit, my uncle who will prolly be a millionare in a few years is on her side, and my mom is normal, to a degree, but she has her moments. overall though, its not that bad.

[Angel_of_Death]

Well, luckily for me I don't have any issues like some of the ones you stated. I spend alot of time with 2 of my cousins, considering them more like bigger brothers. My immediate family isn't as close as other families, but we're all alive and well, and that's what is important. My extended family is different, as I have lost all aunts(5), uncles(4) and grandparents, as well 2 cousins.

[Mr1337Duck]

Shoot... I can't think of really any instability in my family. My mom's a bitch sometimes with the nagging (not an exaggeration to say that 95% of the stuff I hear from her is her bitching about what we need to do), but she's nice anyway. My dad's awesome, bit of a gun freak (AK-47, shotgun, 2 other rifles, plenty of pistols, etc.), but a great guy all the same. My brother is the most unstable. He attempted suicide once, and he likes asian girls more than any other kind, so you know he's fucked up.

[BUGGER]

So.....do you all get through that?

I mean I REALLY can't do it. I'm getting really deppressed now, now knowing I got a lil kid across the country that will barely even know me when she goes to kindergarden. she saying that she doesn't have a brother or atleast he never around because of some damn lie my dad/mom/stepmom made up for her. I can't stand not being able to help her in any which way when she has a problem, and that she can't be a servant like my brother (*cough*). Thats one thing that makes me really depressed.


The other is that this family is full of secrets. I want to know whats going on. I found out that one of my best friends mom just went thru cancer because luckly my grandma says random things now and then, just because its the mom of one of best freind, I should care. She didn't tell him either though, she said it was something else, but still. I need to know whats goin on, I cant function without knowing. Atleast a hint now and then I can make it thru one day. Thats all i ask.

[EarlyDawn]

My aunt committed suicide, and my parents never officially told me. They simply told me she died. Probably one of the most traumatizing days of my life for the simple reason that I KNEW something was wrong and I was told jack shit for a while. They've never told me that it was self-inflicted, but I'm pretty resourceful and I found out on my own.

I also have a half sister that I didn't know about until some time ago, and two neices and a nephew. They're cool though, so no big trauma there.

[Triggar]

Bugger, have you actually asked?

Sometimes the adults in my family speak in Italian in front of me with the belief that they can talk about taboo subjects without me being any the wiser. (They have been wrong for a few years now, but I find it's in my best interest to keep my mouth shut). I think they do this because either a) they're afraid I'll pass the information on to sensitive ears, or b) that I'm not ready to handle that kind of information. I'd say earn their trust first (by not gossipping) and then talk to them, tell them you can deal with whatever they tell you.

That's what my brother did to my sisters and I when we told him that our cousin's father was a different father than the rest of my aunt's kids. He still can't believe it.

[Neon Apocalypse]

/me is an only child with divorced parents living no more than 30 min away from each other, gets to see his parents almost everyday, i see my mom everyday, and has no secrets being kept from him, you could say he is spoiled, but not rotten

[Rayder]

You're italian Triggar?

[Neon Apocalypse]

she looks italian, super italian, it looks as if she qualifies for mexican even

[Everay]

and she carries enough guns to be in the mob. <3

[Rbstr]

You guys make my family feel positivly perfect, thats scary

EDIT: Well my grandma is an Acholic but nothing has ever come of it other than she say wierd things alot when we have Xmas parties/birthdayparties.

I can also tell there are some things are going on with my grandpa, like cancer or something but it seems like it was a while ago and got cured, jsut nobody talks about it.

[VashTheStamped]

My family is well.....

Normal

[Triggar]

I am in fact quite Sicilian. I am the first generation to be born in America on my mother's side, and my father is the first generation of his family. The tip of the iceburg is in America - the rest are still in Sicily.

[Setari]

I am in fact quite Sicilian. I am the first generation to be born in America on my mother's side, and my father is the first generation of his family. The tip of the iceburg is in America - the rest are still in Sicily.
Sicilian Mafia? O.o (jk)

[Triggar]

I joke about the mafia all the time, but I should have a little more respect, since my second cousin (my grandpa's nephew, mom's cousin) was murdered the summer after we went to see them. They dumped his body in his father's fields. So yeah, the mafia isn't as sweet as the movies make it out to be. He was a really nice guy.

[JetRaiden]

alright you wanna know how problem free my family is?

One time my cousin's friend drank too much vodka and had to get rushed to the hospital and get her stomach pumped. thats pretty much the biggest family issue over the past year. pathetic, isnt it?


If I was ever caught with weed my family would be talking about it for years.

[Dharkbayne]

I joke about the mafia all the time, but I should have a little more respect, since my second cousin (my grandpa's nephew, mom's cousin) was murdered the summer after we went to see them. They dumped his body in his father's fields. So yeah, the mafia isn't as sweet as the movies make it out to be. He was a really nice guy.

WTF? You went to SEE them?!

[Triggar]

MY FAMILY IN SICILY, YOU IDIOT!

My grandfather's brother let us stay with them, and he (my cousin, Gaetano) lived in the house with us.

Ironically, my grandfather's cousin was the district attorney in Palermo trying to eradicate the mafia, when they assassinated him.

[FlakMan]

alright you wanna know how problem free my family is?

One time my cousin's friend drank too much vodka and had to get rushed to the hospital and get her stomach pumped. thats pretty much the biggest family issue over the past year. pathetic, isnt it?


If I was ever caught with weed my family would be talking about it for years.
We had a 'campus monitor' rushed to the hospital one morning before school to get his stomach pumped. Needless to say, he was fired afterwards.

[Dharkbayne]

MY FAMILY IN SICILY, YOU IDIOT!

My grandfather's brother let us stay with them, and he (my cousin, Gaetano) lived in the house with us.

Oh, didn't have to be all mean. Now you hurt my feel goods... ARE YOU HAPPY? :tear:

[Triggar]

Sorry Dharkie. I didn't mean to hurt your feel goods. Can I buy you a muffin?

[Everay]

now that you mention it, my grandma is a drunk as well, i remember when my uncle brought his new wife to her house, and me and my close family was there, she was drunk, but then again, there is only a small difference between when shes drunk and not, IE, she can always act drunk, its in her personality.

[FlakMan]

I am in fact quite Sicilian. I am the first generation to be born in America on my mother's side, and my father is the first generation of his family. The tip of the iceburg is in America - the rest are still in Sicily.
There's this kid at my school who's first generation Sicilian and quite proud of it. Weird weird kid, was caught stalking this girl in my math class once. If you ask if he's Italian, he shakes his hand at you and in his most nasal-y voice goes 'I'm Sicilian you fuck!' :lol:

[Dharkbayne]

Sorry Dharkie. I didn't mean to hurt your feel goods. Can I buy you a muffin?

Hoo-ah! Muffins > *! :lol:

[Fragmatic]

My family sucks :(

My parents split up when I was around 6, and I was made to live with my mum. She's always been a bitch, always treated me like shit, spent the money my Dad gave here for me (welfare/benifit/whatever) on alcahol, she got through 2 bottles of wine a night. She could never afford to keep a place for us to live, so every year we'd move into a new house provided by the council. Her boyfriends were always sleazy jerks, and never got on with me, and she threw my brother out the house because she didn't like his friends (they were actually pretty cool)
Most importantly, she was never there for me, and for that, I'll never forgive her.

I ran away to live with my Dad a few years back, and I've loved it. I'm closer to my friends, I'm not moving around all of the time, I got an internet connection (don't say "that's not the point" I'm allowed one here, and I'm paying the �35 a month costs to use it) I got alot more freedom here, I'd be lucky if I were ever allowed out when I lived with my mum.

Problem is, my brother, who was exiled to my aunts house, has been living with my dad for around a year, and I absolutely loathe it. My aunt had no children, so she spoilt my brother rotten, he came here because she moved to malaysia. Problem is, my brother is so used to getting spoiled, he always begs for money from dad, yet he's 18 and got no job (Yet he's always whining at me to get one) He treats me like shit, beats me up, breaks my stuff, takes the piss out of me when my friends are about, and I can't do anything about it, He could beat me shitless. Dad doesn't do much, he just says "fight him back" or "don't worry about it"

Sorry for the rant, I'm pissed off :(

[AztecWarrior]

Whoa. God bless you all.

My grandma went insane after a surgery to repair an elbow a few years ago. Anesthetic + Alzheimer's = accelerated Alzheimer's.

My brother is very defiant towards my parents.

My maternal grandfather ran away from his family for a while, then returned and begged forgiveness.

I can say that my family isn't as bad. God bless you all again.

[Fragmatic]

Now I feel shit, I shouldn't have said that

[Dharkbayne]

My family sucks :(

My parents split up when I was around 6, and I was made to live with my mum. She's always been a bitch, always treated me like shit, spent the money my Dad gave here for me (welfare/benifit/whatever) on alcahol, she got through 2 bottles of wine a night. She could never afford to keep a place for us to live, so every year we'd move into a new house provided by the council. Her boyfriends were always sleazy jerks, and never got on with me, and she threw my brother out the house because she didn't like his friends (they were actually pretty cool)
Most importantly, she was never there for me, and for that, I'll never forgive her.

I ran away to live with my Dad a few years back, and I've loved it. I'm closer to my friends, I'm not moving around all of the time, I got an internet connection (don't say "that's not the point" I'm allowed one here, and I'm paying the �35 a month costs to use it) I got alot more freedom here, I'd be lucky if I were ever allowed out when I lived with my mum.

Problem is, my brother, who was exiled to my aunts house, has been living with my dad for around a year, and I absolutely loathe it. My aunt had no children, so she spoilt my brother rotten, he came here because she moved to malaysia. Problem is, my brother is so used to getting spoiled, he always begs for money from dad, yet he's 18 and got no job (Yet he's always whining at me to get one) He treats me like shit, beats me up, breaks my stuff, takes the piss out of me when my friends are about, and I can't do anything about it, He could beat me shitless. Dad doesn't do much, he just says "fight him back" or "don't worry about it"

Sorry for the rant, I'm pissed off :(


I'm sorry Frag, that really sucks, you have my condo�ences. :(

[Squick]

My life may be pretty messed up, expecially growing up so incredibly poor... It is hard to understand the despair that sets in after looking at a Christmas tree with three presents under it and hearing "Sorry kido, thats all we can afford." It has been 20 years since I have heard that, yet it still echoes through my every fiber every time I get a little bit lazy around work, or think maybe it's not important to give everything I have.

I went with my family once to the food stamp line in Downtown Detroit when I was a little kid. What horor that was, the total desolation and sadness is unparalleled, it was totally stripping all of my family's pride away.

But living through the worst (or close to it) was very important to realize what failing leads to. It may be a cliche, but failure is NOT an option.

That is also why I hate to hear some kid killed himself because he was depressed. What they do not realize is they may be drowning in despondency now, but when their life turns around the good will be that much greater!

Squick

[Biohazzard56]

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[Hamma]

My family owns.

[Jennyboo]

My family owns.
Indeed Mommy hamma rules :D

[Incompetent]

Whoa, you have it worse then i thought frag. My only advice is to take solace in the fact that he will be living in a cardboard box in a few years.

[Triggar]

Frag, I have a Princess for a sister who we affectionately refer to as "Pat The Brat", or simply "Spoiled". I take comfort in the fact that she will resent my success for the duration of her life, and will try desperately to reap the benefits of my hardwork.

Oh yeah, my family was also extraordinarily poor during the beginning of my parent's divorce. Dad would go out and buy Mercedes and jewerly for his girlfriends and their kids, but wouldn't pay child support. My mom raised us kids and so hadn't worked in abou ten years, so it was rough. We'd have macaroni and cheese five nights a week, that sort of thing. Dad also took me on a shopping spree one Christmas and I was so excited I almost peed my pants, then when we got to the check-out he goes, "So, you think Fran (his current girlfriend's daughter) will like all these?". That was the same Christmas we went to his mother's house and watched all of my cousins and aunts open all these wonderful presents while me and my three siblings got jack shit.

Anyone that can do that to four kids should rot in hell. Hence me not talking to that side of my family any more and me entering the process to legally change my last name to my mother's, so that I can never give my father's family the honor of having their name on my degree and my FAA licences.

[Dharkbayne]

The details of my life are quite inconsequential.... very well, where do i begin? My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet. My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy. The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament. My childhood was typical. Summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds- pretty standard really. At the age of twelve I received my first scribe. At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I highly suggest you try it.

[Triggar]

The details of my life are quite inconsequential.... very well, where do i begin? My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet. My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy. The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament. My childhood was typical. Summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds- pretty standard really. At the age of twelve I received my first scribe. At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I highly suggest you try it.

I'm adopting you.

[martyr]

omfg.

[Everay]

lol dr.evil

frag, just, show your brother whos boss, i dont know him well, so i dont know how hed react, but mabey if you stand up to him hed stop, worked somewhat with my brother. heh, last time my brother pissed me off, was when i found out he sold my secondary monitor, i found that out the same day i got a second video card, that i could have used to have a 2 monitor set up, so, i walk to my room, slam my door, and he has the nerve to walk into my room as if i did something wrong, i grabed my boken (wooden sword) and charged at him, swung so hard it snaped in twine....too bad i missed.

basicaly he sold it so he could spend the money on himself, and or his new girlfreind. i hate him so much, but i simply dont make it known very often to him. keeps things smooth.

EDIT one last thing, im gonna tell you now, my life isnt as bad as it might sound, infact, im quite content, and any time i might think its bad, i remember there was some guy out in afganistan looking around for those MREs the airforce droped, and accidently picked up one of those scatter bombs that didnt explode when it first fell.

[Onizuka]

The details of my life are quite inconsequential.... very well, where do i begin? My father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from Belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mother was a fifteen year old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed feet. My father would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy. The sort of general malaise that only the genius possess and the insane lament. My childhood was typical. Summers in Rangoon, luge lessons. In the spring we'd make meat helmets. When I was insolent I was placed in a burlap bag and beaten with reeds- pretty standard really. At the age of twelve I received my first scribe. At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I highly suggest you try it.

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: That's one of my favorite parts of that movie.