Woman Issues.

[EarlyDawn]

Okay, so I have been seeing my girlfriend for a little over three months. She's probably bailed on me around 7 time all together it's rarely "her fault". Tonight, after I come home from paintball, I make *specific* plans with her, specific times.

She bails on me again, this is on the heels of our biggest argument yet last night. She sounded genuinely sorry, but I'm beginning to see that she dosen't give a fuck.

Anyway, she dosen't bother to tell me this, or try and contact me so I can at least save part of my night and find something interesting to do. Call me spineless, but I got all hyped up to call her back and tell her I'm through with her, but like always, I can't do it. I just lock up. It's not that I'm subservient to her, it's just that I choke up when I think of taking all my work over the last three months and throwing it straight out the window.

Anyway, she's gonna come online and give me the standard "I love you, I don't deserve you" BS routine. How can I counteract this is a tactful way, and explain to her in gentle, unyeilding terms that she's going to see things my way or I'll be putting my foot in the face or the relationship repeatedly, and I'm not fucking around anymore?

I need the evil mind of PSU on this one. I figure in addition to the standard "kill her" and "dump her" I'll get some good advice. :evil:

[I Hate Pants]

ARGH! NO! Not another one of these threads!

Just rape her in public and then dump her...... in the ditch.

[Mango]

the lounge is turning into a relationship help forum :rolleyes:

[Sputty]

ARGH! NO! Not another one of these threads!

Just rape her in public and then dump her...... in the ditch.
I'll second that

[Smaug]

DHITB! But seriously, you should just be honest with her.

[Indecisive]

Shes cheating on you. Ban her. From life.

[I Hate Pants]

DHITB! But seriously, you should just be honest with her.

DHITB?

[Smaug]

Do Her In The Butt

[Dharkbayne]

When thine girlie friend isth cheating on ye, I decree that all good christians shalt killeth her, do her in thine butt, and then dump thine body into ye holy ditch.

[Triggar]

The girl is a wench.

Say, "I really don't have the patience to have someone in my life who can't even respect me enough to keep the plans we've made. I'm sorry, but try it out on some other guy. Enough is enough."

Don't even worry about the three months you've "invested" with this girl. She's going to keep doing it no matter what you say, and then she'll end up breaking up with you for some stupid reason anyway. Let her go. There are three trillion people on Earth, you can find someone else who treats you well. You have no excuse.

[Fragmatic]

The girl is a wench.

Say, "I really don't have the patience to have someone in my life who can't even respect me enough to keep the plans we've made. I'm sorry, but try it out on some other guy. Enough is enough."

Don't even worry about the three months you've "invested" with this girl. She's going to keep doing it no matter what you say, and then she'll end up breaking up with you for some stupid reason anyway. Let her go. There are three trillion people on Earth, you can find someone else who treats you well. You have no excuse.


Quoted for ultimate truth

[I Hate Pants]

Quote:
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Originally Posted by Jesus
When thine girlie friend isth cheating on ye, I decree that all good christians shalt killeth her, do her in thine butt, and then dump thine body into ye holy ditch.
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:rofl:

[EarlyDawn]

The girl is a wench.

Say, "I really don't have the patience to have someone in my life who can't even respect me enough to keep the plans we've made. I'm sorry, but try it out on some other guy. Enough is enough."

Don't even worry about the three months you've "invested" with this girl. She's going to keep doing it no matter what you say, and then she'll end up breaking up with you for some stupid reason anyway. Let her go. There are three trillion people on Earth, you can find someone else who treats you well. You have no excuse.:nod:
It will be done.

[Triggar]

Well done! You have balls! I applaud your distinction among other men!

FINALLY someone listens to my infinite wisdom ;)

[ObnoxiousFrog]

I like candy.

[martyr]

I like pie.

[Triggar]

http://img22.photobucket.com/albums/v67/ERAUpilot/pie.jpg

[Indecisive]

Pumpkin pie gives me infinite pleasure.

[Triggar]

Ik.

[Indecisive]

Well, at least im not Squeeky|Fappin

[ObnoxiousFrog]

smooth, delicious pumpkin pie, for all your infinite pleasure needs.

Infinite Pleasure: For Great Justice

[JakeLogan]

Hey man if your still in school (highschool I mean) pull the "I'm not ready for a realtionship" card that one always cracks me up. :rofl:

[EarlyDawn]

It wouldn't go over too well, she tried that one.

[Jennyboo]

The girl is a wench.

Say, "I really don't have the patience to have someone in my life who can't even respect me enough to keep the plans we've made. I'm sorry, but try it out on some other guy. Enough is enough."

Don't even worry about the three months you've "invested" with this girl. She's going to keep doing it no matter what you say, and then she'll end up breaking up with you for some stupid reason anyway. Let her go. There are three trillion people on Earth, you can find someone else who treats you well. You have no excuse.
I would have to agree , I invested 2 years into my last boyfriend who did what your gf is doing but worst x10 . Now i dont give it a second thought how i might have invested my time and heart in it .. I think you'v made it clear to her many times how you feel...and she uses what most women use when their men are mad at them "I'm really, sorry I love you" -bs if she loved you she would respect you and not leave you hanging ..if theres something she must do at least she can at least respect you enough to call you up explain and set up plans to make it up...Think about it 3 months or do you want to do this 2 years down the line believe me it gets harder the deeper your in.. :rolleyes: A relationship is a 2 way street and on both side of the road there must be *respect* :love: hope this helps

[EarlyDawn]

Yeah, I understand what you're saying. Better to shoot it in the head now before it becomes a problem later, can't live in denial anymore.

[Jennyboo]

Yeah, I understand what you're saying. Better to shoot it in the head now before it becomes a problem later, can't live in denial anymore.
:love: it sucks i know...but it will hurt more down the road :love:

[Cyanide]

Just for future reference. If you ever refer to maintaining your relationship with a person as "work", you need to find a new relationship to maintain.

[Mango]

Tell her you faked all those orgasims :lol:

[JetRaiden]

Tell her you faked all those orgasims :lol:

um, thats only a good post-breakup thing on the girl's part, not the guys. for guys it basically demasculates(sp?) you.

[Mr1337Duck]

Find thine wench, then strike a dramatic pose. Then thine must taketh out thy holy ferret. Then, in the Lord God's infinite mercy, you must take thy holy ferret, and nibble a portion of thy holy ferret's covering upoff thy holy ferret. Then, thine must dance in a circle, hug thine holy ferret, and proceed to strike thine wench over thine head with thy holy ferret, in thine Lord God's infinite mercy.

[OneManArmy]

hookers and ice cream man, hookers and ice cream....

[Neon Apocalypse]

:rofl:

i think that jennyboo and triggar really hit the nail on the head there

they know their stuff so if i were you i'd listen to them

[Dharkbayne]

Trust in Jesus, for he knoweth the way.

[Triggar]

um, thats only a good post-breakup thing on the girl's part, not the guys. for guys it basically demasculates(sp?) you.

Not really, it could mean to her that she's so fat and ugly that not even sex with her could get you off.

[Gigabein]

Her: I'm sorry! I really love you!

You: Then why don't you respect me? You keep ditching on me, and I'm tired of it. You know what? This whole relationship isn't working, and i'm calling it off. See you in class. <click>

[JetRaiden]

Not really, it could mean to her that she's so fat and ugly that not even sex with her could get you off.

:sick: for earlydawn's sake, I hope thats not the case.

[Derfud]

I say you just turn into an annoying lazy slob. Just let her break up with you. If she really wants to be with you she will try to help you out of the state you went into, if not she will leave.

[Gigabein]

I say you just turn into an annoying lazy slob. Just let her break up with you. If she really wants to be with you she will try to help you out of the state you went into, if not she will leave.

Spending time on her is obviously a gamble, and gambling is wasteful. Don't waste time on her. To the curb you must kicker her.

[scarpas]

eeny meeny miney moe,
catch your gf by the toe,
if she squirms, squeeze it tight,
then you take a great big bite.

[Derfud]

Spending time on her is obviously a gamble, and gambling is wasteful. Don't waste time on her. To the curb you must kicker her.

Not really, being lazy, should be somewhat of a regular activity for anybody who frequents PSU. If you dont have enough time to be lazy, start ignoring her.

[Rayder]

Wow.... I myself would have set up a really big dinner someplace nice, say, a five-star restaurant near you. You would tell her that this is a very important meeting that really can't be missed. Tell her to come at say, 8:00 (come to the restaurant that is, and make sure to make reservations for two), and say that you'll be there a few minutes after because you had to pick up something "special." Now, because you're following the evil plan that I have made, you would tell the gar�on to take this message to her at say, 8:03. In this message, in your own handwriting, you will have written something akin to the following: "My dearest <name here>, I am truely sorry I could not join you tonight, for you see, I had an encounter that just could not wait. It came as a surprise to me, and I'm sure it does to you. For you see, I couldn't give a fuck about you anymore and I just want it to end. P.S. I'm not paying."

[JakeLogan]

Wow.... I myself would have set up a really big dinner someplace nice, say, a five-star restaurant near you. You would tell her that this is a very important meeting that really can't be missed. Tell her to come at say, 8:00 (come to the restaurant that is, and make sure to make reservations for two), and say that you'll be there a few minutes after because you had to pick up something "special." Now, because you're following the evil plan that I have made, you would tell the gar�on to take this message to her at say, 8:03. In this message, in your own handwriting, you will have written something akin to the following: "My dearest <name here>, I am truely sorry I could not join you tonight, for you see, I had an encounter that just could not wait. It came as a surprise to me, and I'm sure it does to you. For you see, I couldn't give a fuck about you anymore and I just want it to end. P.S. I'm not paying."
Thats fucking evil.

[Mr1337Duck]

Pwnt!

[jedi]

Anyway, she's gonna come online and give me the standard "I love you, I don't deserve you" BS routine. How can I counteract this is a tactful way, and explain to her in gentle, unyeilding terms that she's going to see things my way or I'll be putting my foot in the face or the relationship repeatedly, and I'm not fucking around anymore?

I need the evil mind of PSU on this one. I figure in addition to the standard "kill her" and "dump her" I'll get some good advice. :evil:

I would suggest telling her that it sickens you that she invests time in giving you the BS routine instead of trying to be honest and actually respecting you or caring about how you feel.

[JakeLogan]

Well or you could try "It's not you it's me" line....... then come back a couple seconds later and say "Incase you didn't know it's you"

[DeepStrikeck]

Wow.... I myself would have set up a really big dinner someplace nice, say, a five-star restaurant near you. You would tell her that this is a very important meeting that really can't be missed. Tell her to come at say, 8:00 (come to the restaurant that is, and make sure to make reservations for two), and say that you'll be there a few minutes after because you had to pick up something "special." Now, because you're following the evil plan that I have made, you would tell the gar�on to take this message to her at say, 8:03. In this message, in your own handwriting, you will have written something akin to the following: "My dearest <name here>, I am truely sorry I could not join you tonight, for you see, I had an encounter that just could not wait. It came as a surprise to me, and I'm sure it does to you. For you see, I couldn't give a fuck about you anymore and I just want it to end. P.S. I'm not paying."
damn that is evil. But I like it. :D :evil:

[oddfish]

Well, this is easy. She has little or no respect for you. Which is really not cool at all. She is far too immature to be in a relationship with you for as long as you've been in one. It's clear you're good to her because you make an effort to make plans with her and hang out with her and basically show her that you do care to be with her. Now, she, on the other hand, is clearly not as invested in making this relationship work as you are. Either she cheats on you which is the most disgustingly shitty thing anyone can do, or she is just way to immature to be able to show the same respect for someone that they show for her. You've been dating a little kid for three months. And, the fact that you claim that you've put a lot of work into this relationship is a clear indicator that you're doing most of the work anyways. If you're the one doing all the work to keep this relationship going then you're going to seem like you're working to hard and the girl will start to get "stressed out" by you. This is without a doubt not your fault at all. This is her fault because she's not into keeping the relationship working as much as you are. All i'm going to say is that this relationship is just emotionally taxing on you and is probably causing you more stress than its worth. A relationship should be a bit taxing, but it shouldn't be ridiculously stressful. The two people in the relationship should work about the same to keep it going. I'm sorry to say this to you, but I think it's time to call her up and say: listen, you don't respect me, you don't give a shit about our relationship, so you don't deserve to have someone as devoted as i am catering to you whenever you can't get a hold of your friends and are bored.

Don't be with someone who only makes you their option when they're your priority.

[HunterKiller]

fuck her and then after-sex break up with her.

[JakeLogan]

You've been dating a little kid for three months I don't think he is a priest.



ZING!!!!!!

[Rayder]

I don't think he is a priest.



ZING!!!!!!
Zing of the Day!

[EarlyDawn]

Well, this is easy. She has little or no respect for you. Which is really not cool at all. She is far too immature to be in a relationship with you for as long as you've been in one. It's clear you're good to her because you make an effort to make plans with her and hang out with her and basically show her that you do care to be with her. Now, she, on the other hand, is clearly not as invested in making this relationship work as you are. Either she cheats on you which is the most disgustingly shitty thing anyone can do, or she is just way to immature to be able to show the same respect for someone that they show for her. You've been dating a little kid for three months. And, the fact that you claim that you've put a lot of work into this relationship is a clear indicator that you're doing most of the work anyways. If you're the one doing all the work to keep this relationship going then you're going to seem like you're working to hard and the girl will start to get "stressed out" by you. This is without a doubt not your fault at all. This is her fault because she's not into keeping the relationship working as much as you are. All i'm going to say is that this relationship is just emotionally taxing on you and is probably causing you more stress than its worth. A relationship should be a bit taxing, but it shouldn't be ridiculously stressful. The two people in the relationship should work about the same to keep it going. I'm sorry to say this to you, but I think it's time to call her up and say: listen, you don't respect me, you don't give a shit about our relationship, so you don't deserve to have someone as devoted as i am catering to you whenever you can't get a hold of your friends and are bored.

Don't be with someone who only makes you their option when they're your priority.Yeh that makes sense.

For the record; I decided to be a nice guy (victim?) one last time and give her a final chance. However, I did flat out tell her if she fucks it up again, it's done.

[Jennyboo]

Yeh that makes sense.

For the record; I decided to be a nice guy (victim?) one last time and give her a final chance. However, I did flat out tell her if she fucks it up again, it's done.
:eek: Well the main thing is you told her what for just dont let her walk all over you .. remember Respect is a 2 way street :P~ if she cant respect that she dosent deserve you :love:

[AztecWarrior]

The girl is a wench.

Say, "I really don't have the patience to have someone in my life who can't even respect me enough to keep the plans we've made. I'm sorry, but try it out on some other guy. Enough is enough."

Don't even worry about the three months you've "invested" with this girl. She's going to keep doing it no matter what you say, and then she'll end up breaking up with you for some stupid reason anyway. Let her go. There are three trillion people on Earth, you can find someone else who treats you well. You have no excuse.
What she said.

[Jennyboo]

:D

[Mag-Mower]

Start talking like BTW, OMW, AMS AT NME GEN, w00t, n00b, teh l337 skeeter driv3r is teh l3373s7 n00b eva, and always talk like that, she will get pissed off and leave... take it from me :(

[Derfud]

hahahah

[EarlyDawn]

:lol: :lol:

[JetRaiden]

Start talking like BTW, OMW, AMS AT NME GEN, w00t, n00b, teh l337 skeeter driv3r is teh l3373s7 n00b eva, and always talk like that, she will get pissed off and leave... take it from me :(
:sick:

you actually DID that?

[Jennyboo]

:lol:

[Kyonye]

Thats um....um.... :crapper:

[Seer]

Earlydawn, you should have ended it right then. By giving someone who doesn't respect you 'another chance' you have come off looking, paradoxically, weaker than you were before.

[I Hate Pants]

ouch!

[Triggar]

Agreed. Wimp.

[Jennyboo]

:scared:

[JakeLogan]

http://www.bitmover.com/lm/pictures/cat.jpg http://www.interq.or.jp/royal/makoto/guest/photo/petlow/new%20long%20whip-3.jpg sorry...................................

[Jennyboo]

:scared: :ugh:

[Madcow]

It's threads like these that make me realize I'm entirely too old to be posting here. Thank God for Mani, his age seems to distract everybody from the rest of us.

[EarlyDawn]

Agreed. Wimp.Let her think that if she wants. If she thinks I'm not serious I'll be putting my foot in the face of the relationship repeatedly. :lol:

[Rayder]

You can only do it once silly, otherwise it'll look like you're trying to make her feel bad so she'll come running back to you apologizing even though it really was her faut, but that's not what it's going to look like to the public.

[EarlyDawn]

You can only do it once silly, otherwise it'll look like you're trying to make her feel bad so she'll come running back to you apologizing even though it really was her faut, but that's not what it's going to look like to the public.I don't understand why that'd be a bad thing? Who gives a fuck what the public thinks, it's not their relationship. If she comes crawling back and fixes her behavior, is that not what I'm looking for?
:confused:

[Gigabein]

If she comes crawling back and fixes her behavior, is that not what I'm looking for?
:confused:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA! ... chortle.... high school girl... BAHAHAHA! ... fixes her behavior he says! WAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA! You have a promising career as a comedian, my friend! :lol: :lol:

[EarlyDawn]

It's happened before.

[Sputty]

If I was any type of whipped pussy whipped would be the best type.
Oh, my kittens!

[Rayder]

It's happened before.
:rofl:

[Gigabein]

It's happened before.

What? She fixed her behavior? How's that been working out for you? (sorry for the harsh tongue, but any time there's ever doubt, dumping a high school girlfriend is usually a safe bet)

[Sputty]

Captain, Jean Luc Picarrrrrd, U.S.S. Enterprrrise

[Triggar]

Sputty, that song is haunting me and I LOVE IT

[Peacemaker]

talking in one long incredibly unbroken sentence, moving from topic to topic, incredibly unbroken sentence, moving from topic to topic, so that nobody had the chance to interupt him, it was really quite hipnotic, quiet nodding

[Seer]

Peacemaker, you don't deserve.towear that uniform.

[OneManArmy]

talking in one long incredibly unbroken sentence, moving from topic to topic, incredibly unbroken sentence, moving from topic to topic, so that nobody had the chance to interupt him, it was really quite hipnotic, quiet nodding

Captain, Jean Luc Picarrrrrd, U.S.S. Enterprrrise

[Dharkbayne]

:rofl: PSU has been assimilated

Make it so.

[SDM]

:borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg:

[Mango]

:borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg: :borg:
Resistance is futile.

[SDM]

... chortle....