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DaShiznit
2004-10-06, 05:51 PM
I recently learned my father was taking a new job. First, I was disappointed, he worked for IBM, which I always thought was teh cool. No biggie. I can live. Also, this means he will earn more money; meaning I'll possibly be able to re-establish my broadband connection. But then I learned that it would be in Dayton, OH. I live in Cleveland (note to those who aren't familliar with Ohio's geography: It's pretty far away.).

Good news: I don't have to move. Bad news: He will. Now, my father and I were never very close, but still, I feel crushed. I haven't been getting along with my parents for years now (I'm 15), but somehow, I'm devestated. I'll still see him on the weekends, but I'm just not used to not having my dad around. I guess I never realized how used to him I was-I am.

Any comments would be appreciated
OfaLoaf
2004-10-06, 05:56 PM
Sorry about your father. It's roughly a 4 hour drive to there, right?



Weekends might work.
Everay
2004-10-06, 05:58 PM
im 16, my pa, is gone sometimes, for weeks, up to a month before, it sucks, but he does it to support this family, not just me, but my bro and lil sister, and my mom too, just be grateful he is there.
DaShiznit
2004-10-06, 06:09 PM
I am grateful he's doing this. And yeah, it's about 4 hours out.
EineBeBoP
2004-10-06, 06:10 PM
:-/ sux man.


wish i had some advice i could give but...


:hug:
Triggar
2004-10-06, 06:16 PM
:(

I'm sorry!

I hate to think I'll be doing this to my kids someday.
Ivan
2004-10-06, 06:19 PM
:(

I'm sorry!

I hate to think I'll be doing this to my kids someday.
Stay at home and kick Martyr off his ass and make him be the sole bread winner in the family! ;)
Triggar
2004-10-06, 06:21 PM
No way, nilla. I couldn't breathe if I couldn't fly planes.
Ivan
2004-10-06, 06:25 PM
Than at least till the kid can go to school. :) That's what my mother did. She started to work again after I started school.
firecrackerNC
2004-10-06, 06:30 PM
Ouch man that sucks.
On a sidenote I live in Cleveland too.
JetRaiden
2004-10-06, 07:41 PM
:hug:
Corrosion
2004-10-06, 07:43 PM
Sucks dude, I got used to it, so could you.

I see my dad about once a week for an hour.

/shrug
Lonehunter
2004-10-06, 07:57 PM
My dad lives in Dayton, I will be too in a week or so, what is he going to do in Dayton?
Smaug
2004-10-06, 08:01 PM
Don't worry, its not so bad. My dad worked in construction ever since I was born. He's changing to insurance sales now, but he used to be gone alot sometimes. We lived in NW Indiana, near Gary. He had a job down in southern indiana, but would come to visit on the weekends, similar deal to what your dad has. Just make the most of your weekends.
DaShiznit
2004-10-06, 08:14 PM
Thanks for the support guys. As for Lonehunter, he is working for something called "Standard Register" I think. He'll do consulting for their factories, which is way better than IBM's "Find your own damn work" policy. He's making a huge sacrafice, and I'm grateful for that.
Mag-Mower
2004-10-06, 08:18 PM
Move! get Broadband! JOIN PI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BUGGER
2004-10-06, 10:39 PM
Give him support, talk to him more often. Make sure he 'knows' you.



Be glad that you actually see him, i haven't seen my dad since febuary, and i haven't talked to him since before the hurricane frenzy (he lives in Orlando).
ObnoxiousFrog
2004-10-06, 10:42 PM
Use the money to buy a new dad.
A ROBOT Dad.
NoSurrender
2004-10-06, 11:45 PM
Use the money to buy a new dad.
A ROBOT Dad.
yea but, when you have to oil their joints , it just takes out of the fun.
Rbstr
2004-10-06, 11:48 PM
thats why you buy Pushi con hinges to replace said joints as they are self oiling.
KarlMarxist
2004-10-07, 12:32 AM
...We lived in NW Indiana, near Gary...

Gary Indiana? Like in that musical? or was that Gary Idaho... Dunno. Was a cool play.
Squeeky
2004-10-07, 12:35 AM
I'm 15 and i see my father one weekend every 2 months if i'm lucky. He moved out when i was just under 2 years old. Consider yourself lucky :rolleyes:
CassH
2004-10-07, 12:37 AM
Yea its hard for the first year i know i see my dad once a weekend every 2 months.
Dharkbayne
2004-10-07, 12:50 AM
My dad's in jail for about 20 or so years (Looooooong story).

:/
Mango
2004-10-07, 06:37 AM
GO DAYTON!!

i live in dayton :p

but anyway, I'm sure your dad will take the time to visit you on the weekends or something.
Octavian
2004-10-07, 07:07 AM
IBM used (or is) related to MS, it's therefore evil.

Oh and sorry about your dad.

My dad's in jail for about 20 or so years (Looooooong story).

Tell me about that at TWC.
juggalokilla
2004-10-07, 08:19 AM
dayton here too
JetRaiden
2004-10-07, 10:40 AM
My dad's in jail for about 20 or so years (Looooooong story).

:/

wait, if hes in jail for 20 or so years...how did he make you?
Ivan
2004-10-07, 11:07 AM
He didn't say he has been in jail for 20 years, just will be in jail for 20 years.
Dharkbayne
2004-10-07, 11:15 AM
wait, if hes in jail for 20 or so years...how did he make you?

Jetraiden, you have a knack for looking at something, and seeing something COMPLETELY different. :doh:
Squeeky
2004-10-07, 11:38 AM
wait, if hes in jail for 20 or so years...how did he make you?

Conjugal visits.

Either that, or he slipped one of the guards a $20 and he took a cup full of his semen and mailed it to his mom who then took a rag and shoved his manjam in her cooter. And bam, Dharkbayne was conceived.
Triggar
2004-10-07, 11:41 AM
Poor Dharkie :(
Sputty
2004-10-07, 11:53 AM
Or perhaps....HE DID THE CRIME AFTER DHARK WAS BORN
OMGOMGOMG

...
But knowing dhark as well as I do, I assume it's Squeeky's latter theory
JetRaiden
2004-10-07, 12:07 PM
Jetraiden, you have a knack for looking at something, and seeing something COMPLETELY different. :doh:

:) its what makes me, me.

Conjugal visits.

Either that, or he slipped one of the guards a $20 and he took a cup full of his semen and mailed it to his mom who then took a rag and shoved his manjam in her cooter. And bam, Dharkbayne was conceived.

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: hfs
Infernus
2004-10-07, 02:51 PM
Move! get Broadband! JOIN PI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh god... a new Black Hawks syndrome...
SDM
2004-10-07, 03:03 PM
My dad is in Japan half the year, and sometimes Sao Palo, Brazil. We get along now when I see him. This might be just what your relationship needs. A little distance helps sometimes.

edit: My appologies for bringing this topic back on track.
Ivan
2004-10-07, 06:28 PM
My dad is in Japan half the year, and sometimes Sao Palo, Brazil. We get along now when I see him. This might be just what your relationship needs. A little distance helps sometimes.

edit: My appologies for bringing this topic back on track.
You're right, my one brother and I fought a lot when we where young as most boys do, but now we are older and that I hardly see him cause he is all ways on tours with musicals / or bands I actually miss him sometimes. :)
Jennyboo
2004-10-07, 06:41 PM
I know how hard it can be .. Before I met Hamma ..I was living at home .. Thats 21 year of having my parents around .. It was tough at first ..but in time you will get use to not having him around .. And you will get to see him still .. JUst think of this time as an asjustment for when the time comes to be out on your own ;) Then it wont be a big shock all together :D :love: It will get better and he's always a phone call away