[SHIT]Another girly problem thread (its kind of interesting, I swear)

[JetRaiden]

Shit guys, I got myself in quite a situation. I got myself mixed up with like 3-4 girls, basically at the same time. Here's the dealio:

Girl #1(Kelsey)- Has been a good friend for a little while now. Got to know her has she was kind of going out with my friend spencer. She lived in michigan, and there's no way it would work out (seeing that spencer and I are in rhode island). So after about 5 months or so Spencer meets this other girl Sarah and starts going out with her. If you remember this thread (http://www.planetside-universe.com/forums/showthread.php?t=25789), spencer was in a similar situation, of which Kelsey never found out about. I talked to Spencer about it a couple times, and he apparently likes this girl Sarah alot. He decides he's gonna have to break up with Kelsey. This is where I come in. Kelsey and I talk on AIM just about everyday, sometimes for hours. I know that as soon as Spencer does this, I needed to swoop in and comfort Kelsey as best I can. Kelsey was also supposed to come to boston this week, which wouldve been the first time she's seen Spencer since july.
A thought occurred. Maybe I can go to Boston instead of Spencer, and pick her up on the rebound? I wasn't sure if this was a bad idea. But after calling spencer after the first conversation with kelsey after the break up, he SUGGESTED it to ME. All systems go.

Girl #2 (Erica): Random girl I made out with at a party halloween weekend (ask infernus). She was really hot, and by the end of the night we both figured we would both be going out in a matter of days. Well a few weeks later, I still haven't seen her, plans just kept falling through every weekend. I still kept in touch with her on a regular basis, but there just didn't seem to be much magic there so to speak. I was hoping things would pick up again the next time I saw her.

Girl #3 (Kelly): This is the big one. This girl I went out with for about 6 months, and ended it before school started. We kept talking after that for a while. Finally, things got out of hand. I told her that I didn't ever want to talk to her again, because she was driving me crazy. She seemed like a careless, insensitive bitch. I blocked her sn, deleted any pictures I might've had of her, and forgot about her. 2 days ago she made a different screenname and IMed me. She said she was so sorry for everything and that she really loved me, and didnt realize it until recently. This came as quite a shock. She was really broken up over everything, so I agreed to see her again. I'm not sure if we're officialy "together" or what yet. Its all so confusing.


Girl #4(Amanda): I never actually knew her that well at all. I met her a year ago at a concert and instantly became obsessed with her. Even then I was still pretty shy with girls, so I was reluctant to make a move. I've known her friend Ainsley for years now, and one day about 5 months later she decided that me spencer her and amanda are all gonna go out. By the time I thought I was over her. I was dead wrong. I was still crazy about her, yet still pretty shy to really do anything. So a few months pass, and I'm at spencer's beachhouse for the summer. Again, I find myself thinking about her. Im like "this is fucking ridiculous." ANd tell spencer to invite her and a few other people over. So at the end of the summer she comes, and I get a chance to hang out with her a bit. I got things rolling again. she gave me her number and left around 1030. A week or so later I found out she thought I was hot. Fucking score. Again, a couple months pass and nothing's happened. Apparently I was expected to ask her out a few days after that little get together at the beachhouse. Shit. So I found out she was working at this concert sometime in october. I IM her about a week beforehand, and find ou what it is (didn't realy matter what it was, I was gonna go anyway). She was giving me the whole "oh you should come" and stuff. At this point I was at boarding school and the concert was on a tuesday. Great. I arranged to go home on tuesday for the concert. I picked her out of the crowd instantly. I walk over to her, and talk to her for a little while. She obviously knew I still cared about her, being that I went way out of my way to go to the concert just for her. I recently decied (before the Kelly, Kelsey, or Erica thing) that I was going to make something happen. Soon after that everything came to a hault, and thats where I am now.


Advice please.

also: pics to come shortly

[Giovanni]

My advice to you is to follow your hearth and if you fuck up it's part of life. You grow more if you learn to make you're own decisions.

We can't decide for your hearth, listen to it and what happens, happens.

[JetRaiden]

true. maybe I shouldve made this a poll.

[Pilgrim]

Go Gay

It's the only way that no one but your anus gets hurt

[Kikinchikin]

What are you looking for? If you actually think you could have a long term relationship with any of them (and you want to), then go with that one. Otherwise go with whichever girl is more fun to be around. And don't bother with the Michigan girl except maybe to just see her as a friend. I don't see long distance working for anyone still in school.
edit: :rofl: at pilgrim

[JetRaiden]

What are you looking for? If you actually think you could have a long term relationship with any of them (and you want to), then go with that one. Otherwise go with whichever girl is more fun to be around. And don't bother with the Michigan girl except maybe to just see her as a friend. I don't see long distance working for anyone still in school.
edit: :rofl: at pilgrim


I'm just looking to resolve this while hurting as few people as possible. I'm not gonna put myself in specer's space w/ Kelsey, thats definately not an option. I think things with Erica will eventually collapse (hopefully before she really likes me), and Amanda and Kelly are the only girls that I could see myself with in the long run.

[Infernus]

Go Gay

It's the only way that no one but your anus gets hurt

Oh to dream.... *droll*


In all seriousness this is why I fear relationships...

[Jennyboo]

Screwing up is a part of life.. You at least have to get 1 out of the 4 right :D:thumbsup:

[JetRaiden]

Screwing up is a part of life.. You at least have to get 1 out of the 4 right :D:thumbsup:

:lol: thats what I was just thinking.

[I Hate Pants]

Who would you say is the hottest?

[JetRaiden]

Who would you say is the hottest?

thats pretty tough

I think amanda probably, then maybe kelly is a little more then erica. and kelsey fits somewhere in on the mix.

[Kyonye]

so a....pics coming soon? :p

for real though...what giovanni said is probably the best so far...go with your heart. it is possible for you heart to be wrong, i won't lie about that. but like he said, if you fuck up, its part of life. you grow from your mistakes.

[MrPaul]

Can I make one of these threads, too?


Anyway, I'm gonna agree with Kikin on this one, he said exactly what I was thinking.

[Breed]

Ok, firstly you need to know what you want in life.

Do you want a long-term relationship? A new friend? Or do you just want to fullfil a few basic needs?

Get an idea of what you want then you can better make these decisions yourself.

[JetRaiden]

Ok, firstly you need to know what you want in life.

Do you want a long-term relationship? A new friend? Or do you just want to fullfil a few basic needs?

Get an idea of what you want then you can better make these decisions yourself.


thats the thing...I'm not really sure what Im looking for. I guess you can say a long term relationship, because its bound to come out of one of em.

[Pilgrim]

ok the real advice

You're what, 17-20 I'm betting probably on the lower end

In that case put your penis in whichever is willing, if all are then YAY, if none are then find some who are. And worry about crap like "Long Term" and "Heart" when you are 25 or so and actually established in life.

If you are old enough to have big boy grown up feelings, then you go with whatever girl you like the best. Period. If you can't decide then take a long look in the mirror and consider a sex change opperation because you obviously haven't got the balls to continue as a man.

Dr Pilgrim Has Spoken

[Rayder]

Follow the tiled floor
The way that the wood doth burn
Unto it the ashes do fall
The hearth is the only true way

[Breed]

Well then, if your interested in a long-term relationship then you'll have to be her friend first.

There's plenty of guides on how to get what you want fro mthe opposite sex, i suggest reading a few so you know what it is you actually want and how to get it.

[firecrackerNC]

Ill take the ones you choose not too.

[Hezzy]

Shit guys, I got myself in quite a situation. I got myself mixed up with like 3-4 girls, basically at the same time. Here's the dealio:

Girl #1(Kelsey)- Has been a good friend for a little while now. Got to know her has she was kind of going out with my friend spencer. She lived in michigan, and there's no way it would work out (seeing that spencer and I are in rhode island). So after about 5 months or so Spencer meets this other girl Sarah and starts going out with her. If you remember this thread (http://www.planetside-universe.com/forums/showthread.php?t=25789), spencer was in a similar situation, of which Kelsey never found out about. I talked to Spencer about it a couple times, and he apparently likes this girl Sarah alot. He decides he's gonna have to break up with Kelsey. This is where I come in. Kelsey and I talk on AIM just about everyday, sometimes for hours. I know that as soon as Spencer does this, I needed to swoop in and comfort Kelsey as best I can. Kelsey was also supposed to come to boston this week, which wouldve been the first time she's seen Spencer since july.
A thought occurred. Maybe I can go to Boston instead of Spencer, and pick her up on the rebound? I wasn't sure if this was a bad idea. But after calling spencer after the first conversation with kelsey after the break up, he SUGGESTED it to ME. All systems go.

Girl #2 (Erica): Random girl I made out with at a party halloween weekend (ask infernus). She was really hot, and by the end of the night we both figured we would both be going out in a matter of days. Well a few weeks later, I still haven't seen her, plans just kept falling through every weekend. I still kept in touch with her on a regular basis, but there just didn't seem to be much magic there so to speak. I was hoping things would pick up again the next time I saw her.

Girl #3 (Kelly): This is the big one. This girl I went out with for about 6 months, and ended it before school started. We kept talking after that for a while. Finally, things got out of hand. I told her that I didn't ever want to talk to her again, because she was driving me crazy. She seemed like a careless, insensitive bitch. I blocked her sn, deleted any pictures I might've had of her, and forgot about her. 2 days ago she made a different screenname and IMed me. She said she was so sorry for everything and that she really loved me, and didnt realize it until recently. This came as quite a shock. She was really broken up over everything, so I agreed to see her again. I'm not sure if we're officialy "together" or what yet. Its all so confusing.


Girl #4(Amanda): I never actually knew her that well at all. I met her a year ago at a concert and instantly became obsessed with her. Even then I was still pretty shy with girls, so I was reluctant to make a move. I've known her friend Ainsley for years now, and one day about 5 months later she decided that me spencer her and amanda are all gonna go out. By the time I thought I was over her. I was dead wrong. I was still crazy about her, yet still pretty shy to really do anything. So a few months pass, and I'm at spencer's beachhouse for the summer. Again, I find myself thinking about her. Im like "this is fucking ridiculous." ANd tell spencer to invite her and a few other people over. So at the end of the summer she comes, and I get a chance to hang out with her a bit. I got things rolling again. she gave me her number and left around 1030. A week or so later I found out she thought I was hot. Fucking score. Again, a couple months pass and nothing's happened. Apparently I was expected to ask her out a few days after that little get together at the beachhouse. Shit. So I found out she was working at this concert sometime in october. I IM her about a week beforehand, and find ou what it is (didn't realy matter what it was, I was gonna go anyway). She was giving me the whole "oh you should come" and stuff. At this point I was at boarding school and the concert was on a tuesday. Great. I arranged to go home on tuesday for the concert. I picked her out of the crowd instantly. I walk over to her, and talk to her for a little while. She obviously knew I still cared about her, being that I went way out of my way to go to the concert just for her. I recently decied (before the Kelly, Kelsey, or Erica thing) that I was going to make something happen. Soon after that everything came to a hault, and thats where I am now.


Advice please.

also: pics to come shortly

DTITB. At the same time. If you were to take my advice, don't go for any of them. Teenage girls are bitches, and are after two things; Money and Sex. There may be one or two that are delusional about being in love, but that's not true. Don't bother with girls until you're older.

But, If I were to pick one, I'd pick #4.

#1 = Boyfriend cooldown rates apply. When one of your mates goes out with a girl, there's a cooldown period until you can begin dating her. I don't know the exact equation, but just keep off her for a month or two, and maybe use her in reserve.

#2 = Don't bother with Erica. That was a fling, and there's no point pursuing it. She could be a complete nutcase.

#3 = Typical teenage girl. Gets all bitchy with PMS, then comes crawling back to you saying sorry, even though she doesn't mean it. She's also one of those delusional types.

[Triggar]

But, If I were to pick one, I'd pick #4.

#1 = Boyfriend cooldown rates apply. When one of your mates goes out with a girl, there's a cooldown period until you can begin dating her. I don't know the exact equation, but just keep off her for a month or two, and maybe use her in reserve.

#2 = Don't bother with Erica. That was a fling, and there's no point pursuing it. She could be a complete nutcase.

#3 = Typical teenage girl. Gets all bitchy with PMS, then comes crawling back to you saying sorry, even though she doesn't mean it. She's also one of those delusional types.

:nod:

I'm with the Brit on this one

[JetRaiden]

#1 = Boyfriend cooldown rates apply. When one of your mates goes out with a girl, there's a cooldown period until you can begin dating her. I don't know the exact equation, but just keep off her for a month or two, and maybe use her in reserve.



You're forgetting the rebound exception. In which case I can pick her up within a few days after a breakup, if conditions are right.

Also, Erica is a normal girl, we just don't click.

I can agree about #3. She definately does seem like that kind of person. When I see her tomorrow I'll know for sure.

And with #4, I don't know what I should do. She seems perfect, but I just can't make a move. It took me 15 minutes to get Erica, and a week or two for Kelly. I might just take the lazy way out and just go into one of those romantic comedy-esque emotional confessions and hope for the best.
:p

[Lexington_Steele]

Whatever you do don't go for number 1. Your friend may tell you to go for it, but it will end badly (maybe not ruin your friendship badly, but it will cause problems). There is no rebound exception. He will come to resent your going out with her (despite what he said) and she still has feelings for him which you will come to resent.

#2 doesn't seem that interested. Sure you both had a good time at that party, but some times it is just about having fun, and not a relationship thing.

#3 Whatever reasons you dumped her for the first time are still there. You will come to remember after a little while of being back with her. And she will not forget that you dumped her and will do things like prepare a back up boyfirend for if you dump her again.

#4 Go for it. This seems to be the one you really want. It also seems to be the greatest challenge to make happen. Don't settle for the girls that are 'there' for you.

[JetRaiden]

You sir, are quite enlightened. Thank you.

[Mango]

Five-some ;)

[Neon Apocalypse]

get the hell away from your ex you really need to move on, otherwise you go backwards

stay out of your friends mess

so its either erica or amanda

you chose, i'm thinking amanda though, because you wanted things to work out with her, but plans kinda dissapeared, and thats usually a sign of not really caring if stuff like that happens, you gotta put an effort in if you want her

i'd go with amanda

[Wraithlord]

tell each one of them that you asked for advice on this problem in a gaming forum and take the one that doesnt leave then and there.

[I Hate Pants]

tell each one of them that you asked for advice on this problem in a gaming forum and take the one that doesnt leave then and there.
:lol: Couldn't of put it better myslef.

I'll say that if I ever want to break up.

[Hezzy]

tell each one of them that you asked for advice on this problem in a gaming forum and take the one that doesnt leave then and there.

There's nothing wrong with asking for advice. PSU is more than a gaming forum, it's a big family. That's why people are comfortable to ask advice.

[Hydralisk]

tell each one of them that you asked for advice on this problem in a gaming forum and take the one that doesnt leave then and there. That'll prove how much they REALLY love him.:rofl:
What if all of them leave?:huh:

[Wraithlord]

well then thats a sign he shouldnt be trying to reproduce period

[Hezzy]

Oh and Jet women are very judgemental. Proof? There:

Hezzy] - You're not a furry? RIGHT WING CHRISTIAN ARSEHOLE says:
hi
[Hezzy] - You're not a furry? RIGHT WING CHRISTIAN ARSEHOLE says:
boobies?
..KaTiE.. i love him ...bored... says:
ergg
..KaTiE.. i love him ...bored... says:
no! stop actin like an asshole

There you go. Proof you can say 2 words and be an arsehole for the rest of your life.

[Heavygain]

My vote, #4, ex's never work out. Plus, Amanda likes music, which instantly gets me vpting for her.

[Electrofreak]

Bang them all. Problem solved... er... well ok not really.

[JetRaiden]

the thing is about #4 is that its the only one where I dont already have a strong foothold in the relationship. it'll be quite a challenge.

[Neon Apocalypse]

you can do it jet

[Heavygain]

True, but think of it as halo 2 on legendary, hard but amazingly rewarding.

[JetRaiden]

:lol: you guys are the best.

[ObnoxiousFrog]

I suggest the only option not mentioned here...

Peter Gabriel outside of thier window, followed by violent rape and culminating with an express 1-way ticket to aluminium bat town.

[Glaynor]

My advice? Well - forget the ex, at least in what my advice entails.

Go out on dates with all of them and see which is the best for you. Listen, there is no reason to go jumping into a "relationship" with all of them. Find out about each one, date each one, hook up with each of them. I'm not saying go being a 'dog' and jump into bed with each of them but go date. I really didn't get that dating concept until I was in my mid twenties. It was always either girlfriend or hook up to me, not casual dating. Casual dating is the best way to get to know someone. The one you like - decide to get more serious with that one.

[Lonehunter]

Buy your self a pimp cane, cuz it sounds like it would fit you

My advice to you is to follow your heart
or that

[JetRaiden]

Ok heres my schedule for the week:

Tomorrow(wednesday):Going out with kelly, first to my friend's concert at as220 then to a party afterwards
thursday: Go see my friend in boston, then maybe go see kelsey
friday: go to a party with erica

fuck, now to get amanda somewhere in the mix. :ugh: