Need your help. (Friend in trouble)

[Giovanni]

I really don't know what to do... see, I have this friend called Jessica whom I go out to bars with and such.

Well, she has this big ass problem with one of her ex's and she keeps cutting her arms... says the pain goes away when she does that. I've tried talking to her and listening to her but that didn't work... I've tried bitching at her and that doesn't work either.

Honestly I don't know what to do and it worries me... she hasnt been with that guy in over 7 months and she still thinks about him...

It's not like I can send her to a shrink or call the cops on her... I can't really talk to anybody around me either or else they'll freak out and probably annoy her...

Bleh...

[Geist]

I'm sorry.try to get her to do something else when she thinks
about him that's that doesn't have to do with hurting herself.:(

[Hamma]

Get her professional help - not much else you can do. She will thank you later ;)

[Rbstr]

You really can't do anything but get her in to see a shrink.

There aren't excuses when dealing with this kind of thing.

[Heavygain]

Professional help is the only way to go. That or make her start crack, but thats bad too.

[Giovanni]

Professional help is the only way to go. That or make her start crack, but thats bad too.

Hmmmm crack you say??? :p

But seriously how am I suposed to get her to see a shrink? Knock her out and bring her there? I've talked to her about it before and she said she didn't want to go see one... Guess I need to find a way to get her in there before it's too late.

[Rbstr]

Tell her that it's serious and dont be a pussy about it.

It's needs to be a "You are not being rational and you are becoming a danger to yourself, you need to get help now, and I want to help you get there."

And if 1 on 1 doesn't work enlist friends to help.

I don't know laws about this, but you may or may not be able to force her into getting help some way. It's not going to be preaty but if you can't get her to go on he own will and the option's avalible, you should see what options exist.

[Hamma]

^

Aye - she may hate you for a time - but if it saves her life it's worth it and she will be more than thankful later.

[Geist]

Agreed,something this serious really needs professional help.

[OneManArmy]

tell she needs to stop being such a pussy and kill herself. no more jessica. no more problem.

[Peacemaker]

To be perfectly honest the best way to get a girl to stop that crap is become her main squeeze. When they finally get strong enough that they wont do it anymore the relationship will break up. I used to have a girl friend who started dating me just because I kept her from doing that crap.

But I dont know the specifics of this case so it probably ISNT the best way like I said. Worked for me and I got the perks of a hot girl friend for a few months.

[Electrofreak]

Are you kidding me? I know 2 girls who cut. One is suicidal. Christ, you want bad, I could spend a week spouting the problems of all the girls I'm friends with. Its one of the major reasons I'm in a long distance relationship. All the chicks I know who live around me are fucking crazy.

Its like they say.

A woman is either

A) Single

B) Beautiful

C) Sane

NOW PICK TWO.

[Hamma]

tell she needs to stop being such a pussy and kill herself. no more jessica. no more problem.
You know you really are an asshole sometimes :lol:


:love:

[OneManArmy]

what the hell is not logical about my solution? direct and effective.

fine I'll tone it down.

Ignore her and let her keep playing a ronco commercial on wrist. It's not your problem. She apparently sucks at handling hers and you don't need the drama (god knows...)

Lots of people are worse off than her and you don't see them going all captain stabby.

:p :love:

[Giovanni]

Thanks boys, will be trying this soon. (Not OMA's awnser)

[OneManArmy]

damnit. I don't get it. Its just like when the fired me from the suicide help call in center.....

[TheRegurgitator]

Stupid emos, it's all their fault this whole wrist-cutting thing got started. They should die, but then again they might like it too much.

[Giovanni]

damnit. I don't get it. Its just like when the fired me from the suicide help call in center.....


:rofl:

I can see it in my mind:
"Hi... my name's bob... I wanna kill myself... I got a gun to my head"
Oma: "Do it! Come on you pussy! DO IT!"
*BLAM*



As for "TheRegurgitator", you're an idiot. Seriously what's with the stereotypes and categorising? If someone dresses all in black I guess you call them goth? Get a clue you idiot.

[Hamma]

:rofl:

I can see it in my mind:
"Hi... my name's bob... I wanna kill myself... I got a gun to my head"
Oma: "Do it! Come on you pussy! DO IT!"
*BLAM*
ICP.

There was an Insane Clown Posse song where the the guy was on a suicide help line and he's harassing the guy and telling him to do it. Then there is a gunshot and he's like "Hello, Hello?!" the guy responds and he's like "I KNEW YOU WOULDNT DO IT YOU FUCKING PUSSY!"

[Kyonye]

She may hate you for life, but atleast this possibility could help her. An intervention could help. Keep it small. Telling her parent's would be a good thing. Anyone VERY close to her. It is an idea to look into.

[Giovanni]

She may hate you for life, but atleast this possibility could help her. An intervention could help. Keep it small. Telling her parent's would be a good thing. Anyone VERY close to her. It is an idea to look into.

Her mother is sort of part of the problem...

She lives at home, but she has to pay for her own food because her mom only pays for rent and her addiction. :ugh:

It's a classic weird ass family.

[Rbstr]

her addiction?

[TheRegurgitator]

As for "TheRegurgitator", you're an idiot. Seriously what's with the stereotypes and categorising? If someone dresses all in black I guess you call them goth? Get a clue you idiot.
??? I'm sorry that jocks play sports, emos are very emotional, and nerds like me play video games. It's an opinion formed on what I usually see. I don't base my opinions off what they wear, its what they do or how they act.

EDIT: Oh, I see what you mean. I wasn't calling her an emo as you may have thought. I was blaming the emo's for starting the wrist cutting trend.

[Hamma]

Way to stereotype.. everyone.

:lol:

People who stereotype everyone suck at life.

[OneManArmy]

I still say leave these fucking nut jobs alone... unless you are going to get some.... "favors" :brow: perhaps?

she does seem to be fragile.... ;)



oh yea I'll see all of you in hell! and I'll be wearing the party hat.

[Giovanni]

her addiction?

Cocaine... from what she told me her mom fell into it after her father left her mom. It's a long complicated story but I wouldn't be suprised if it played a part in her tendency to mutilate herself.

Oh and I agree with Hamma for the stereotype thing.

[TheRegurgitator]

Anyways, just tell her that you are doing whatever you have to do because you care about her.

EDIT: Ok, just want to clear up this whole stereotypical thing, as an example I said jocks play sports, but what I also meant is that just because someone plays sports it doesn't make them a jock.

[Rbstr]

Cocaine... from what she told me her mom fell into it after her father left her mom. It's a long complicated story but I wouldn't be suprised if it played a part in her tendency to mutilate herself.

Oh and I agree with Hamma for the stereotype thing.

She needs to get out of that house, now.

[Giovanni]

She needs to get out of that house, now.

And go where? I can't give her shelter.

Sure I could probably find her somewhere to stay but would that make things any better? I'm going to bring her to a therapist first and then I'll worry about getting her out but as of now it's not really possible...

Her mom doesn't really do anything to worsen the entire thing but I'm sure it was the start of the whole thing... she's not supportive of her child but she gives her shelter. Wich is more then alot of people can say.

I could probably contat her dad thought... I know a couple of people who know him more then I do so I could probably get his number... good idea?

[TheRegurgitator]

And go where? I can't give her shelter.

Sure I could probably find her somewhere to stay but would that make things any better? I'm going to bring her to a therapist first and then I'll worry about getting her out but as of now it's not really possible...

Her mom doesn't really do anything to worsen the entire thing but I'm sure it was the start of the whole thing... she's not supportive of her child but she gives her shelter. Wich is more then alot of people can say.

I could probably contat her dad thought... I know a couple of people who know him more then I do so I could probably get his number... good idea?
It's a good idea as long as he is cool headed and doesn't make things worse. Just give her something to look forward to so she doesn't think she has no purpose in life or whatever. The best thing to do is keep her active.

[Giovanni]

Yeah her father's really fun...

Hell, back in the day when he was with her mom me and him used to hang out. I'm starting to think this is one hell of a good idea... he lives like two hours away from here but I'm guessing this is what she needs... to get away from here and get away from her problems...

I'll inform you as soon as I get news from her dad and from her. Thanks alot guys wouldn't have thought of it without you! I owe you all one! Even you OMA :love: (because you made me laugh a bit)!

[Rbstr]

I don't know exactaly how to go about it, I'm not some kind of expert, none of us are. Esentialy I'm repeating stuff I've heard over and over on Love Line (you know with Doctor Drew and Adam Corrola)

But with a drug problem I guess you need to get her into rehab. She'll get counseling there I'd assume.

[TheRegurgitator]

Way to stereotype.. everyone.

:lol:

People who stereotype everyone suck at life.
Oh, I just got how that was funny... :lol:

'Cause you were stereotyping people who stereotype everyone :lol:

At least thats what I thought you meant.

[Rbstr]

Erm, my post was before I saw the dad thing.

That would probably help quite a bit, but i also thing counseling is something you need to get her no matter what IMO.

[Hamma]

Yeah her father's really fun...

Hell, back in the day when he was with her mom me and him used to hang out. I'm starting to think this is one hell of a good idea... he lives like two hours away from here but I'm guessing this is what she needs... to get away from here and get away from her problems...

I'll inform you as soon as I get news from her dad and from her. Thanks alot guys wouldn't have thought of it without you! I owe you all one! Even you OMA :love: (because you made me laugh a bit)!
:thumbsup: Let us know :)

[Geist]

Its a good thing you chose something to do for her.Hope she gets better:love:

[Giovanni]

I don't know exactaly how to go about it, I'm not some kind of expert, none of us are. Esentialy I'm repeating stuff I've heard over and over on Love Line (you know with Doctor Drew and Adam Corrola)

But with a drug problem I guess you need to get her into rehab. She'll get counseling there I'd assume.

Her mom is the one with the Coke problem! <3

[OneManArmy]

She should switch to pepsi.

[Giovanni]

She should switch to pepsi.

I've always prefered Brisk iced tea!

[Mag-Mower]

She should switch to pepsi.
Pepsi > Coke any time

[Giovanni]

Well...

Everything is fixed or in the process of being fixed. I called her dad and he had no idea what was going on... he thanked me and she is now moving to his place. He will get her into therapy and try to make it all better. From time to time he will be bringing her down for a week or so and she'll stay with some of her friends (including me).

I went with her dad to tell her that she was moving if she wanted to, she thanked me and apologized. I'm hoping that things will be better soon.

Thanks guys <3

[Hamma]

:thumbsup:

Great news ;D

[OneManArmy]

she'll stay with some of her friends (including me).

I told you that was a good angle to work. :brow: bow chicka wow.....

now just make sure she kills herself after you sleep with her... because honestly...


nobody likes a corpse fucker.

[Giovanni]

I told you that was a good angle to work. :brow: bow chicka wow.....

now just make sure she kills herself after you sleep with her... because honestly...


nobody likes a corpse fucker.

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Fragmatic]

Slap the bitch and tell her to quit being such an attention whore.

[Hamma]

:lol:

[Geist]

:lol: