So my exwife went and...

[MrVicchio]

Hey gang!

Sorry been away, my life is busy busy busy!

Anyway, my exwife went and did it, she first asked me to sign over legal rights to my kids to her boyfriend. Yeah, things that ain't gonna happen for a hundred Alex.

So then she claims to have "never gotten the dental insurance cards" And went and racked up 1k in dental bill on the kids. Okay... then she calls DEMANDING I pay it, I tell her to bugger off, the kids are insured, try CALLING me for the info.. grrr

So she goes to the courts and gets child support raised another 100 a month. As far as the courts are concerned, because I cannot afford an attorney, I'm still maing 35k a year in the Navy with free medical/dental. She's ALSO threatened to start a custody fight if ever I challenge this amount.


Well, my Aunt dropped some good money for an attorney and now the fight is on, we are gonna challenge both the current lvl of child support and what I "owe"

See I only make 2ka month, I pay almost 375 a month for full medical dental and vision for me my wife now and the kids. PLUS 623(723 if she gets her way)

Hello, I think that's just a tad much. I don't care that I have to pay CS, that's called "Welcome to divorce" but holy crap, I pay basically 1/2 my pay BEFORE taxes! It's really much too high.

[OneManArmy]

kill her....






fuck it, and the kids too.

[Hamma]

Probably uses half of it for drinking money.

Seriously everything that has to do with divorce fucking pisses me off. Where in the fuck does a woman (or man for that matter) get off saying they deserve half of whatever when in most cases they didn't have jack shit to do with earning that money, or property.

:mad: Fight the good fight man hope ya win. And I am sure you are staying in their lives as well (the kids) ;)

[Derfud]

No better way to publicize your plight than by kidnapping her, your kids, and the boyfriend, and starting a nation-wide manhunt!

[LimpBIT]

That sucks dude. My parents had a fat custody fight when they got divorced, and yet again, the man gets screwed. My dad pays about 1200 a month to my mom....whom I dont even live with anymore.

[Baneblade]

The man isnt always the shafted one, but then again my mom hasnt paid a single dime of child support...she now owes my dad something like 24,000.

[OneManArmy]

like I said, when you's done wit a woman you gotta dispose of her right proper.




wood chipper or some sort.

[Kyonye]

My parent's had a mutual divorce.. My father and mother came to the conclusion that my sister and I would be better off living with my mother. And, my father voluntarily paid child support. Everything was settled out of court. I saw my father 2 days and nights, out of every week. I guess my sister and I got really lucky with this. Also seeing that my parents still talk, and have no problem with eachother. Hell, when my father's mother died, my mother and her parents went and sat shiva (it's a Jewish thing), at my fathers house.

[OneManArmy]

thats bull my stepdads ex wife is a dirty *** and she tried and pretty much suceeded in jewing him out of everything he owns. Lucky I don't think her *** powers are working anymore but fuck man, your dad got REAL lucky.

[Giovanni]

Bah atleast they still have their little bags of *** gold around their necks.

[Heavygain]

*** gold is like kryptonite to us none ****, don't even try.

[MrVicchio]

The real thing I fear is, that when the fight over child support kicks off, my ex wife goes ballistic, (and she will) and tries some crazy shit to take away my rights away as a father.

[OneManArmy]

fuck her. let her have that batch. you can always make more babies. new and improved!

[Rbstr]

To me it seems that your scared of the legal system, and you were acctualy hurting your case.
You can always represent yourself, and free legal advice is availible.

She's taking that to her advantage it seem, fuck her for being so inhumane, but you need to fight back.

[Baneblade]

Bringing lawyers to a custody dispute can sometimes hurt, also makes it seem like you have more money around to throw down.

Judges are human...and they can be influenced as such.

[LimpBIT]

Bringing lawyers to a custody dispute can sometimes hurt, also makes it seem like you have more money around to throw down.

Judges are human...and they can be influenced as such.

yea, it might be easier to just represent yourself. Judges have compassion just like anybody else.

[MrVicchio]

I'm not paying for the lawyer, family is in outrage over raising the childsupport on me.

[Giovanni]

Just go and try to do it yourself and don't complain about it. If all you do is complain and do nothing then you are a weak weak man.

[MrVicchio]

Just go and try to do it yourself and don't complain about it. If all you do is complain and do nothing then you are a weak weak man.

Do what? Take on her lawyer in court?

Yeah... that's a bright plan.

[Baneblade]

If she doesnt show up and the lawyer does, thats points for you. She might get too sure of herself.

I dont know her though, do what you feel you need to do. But I thought the idea was to present your lack of ability to pay even more CS, not throw money at a court battle. The judge matters, if the judge tends to side with women, a lawyer on your side just evens the field, but if you dont bring your own lawyer, you might get tilted in your favor.

In all honesty, the only reason having a lawyer worked for my dad, was that my mom was such a fuck up she practically did all the convincing herself. And it was about custody. Being able to afford a lawyer in a custody battle shows financial security.

But showing financial security when trying to fight a $100 per month increase in CS...not a tactic I'd personally recommend.

[Baneblade]

Oh and it isn't her lawyer nor even her that you have to focus on. As far as you should be concerned, its just you and the judge. 'Losing it' trying to fight her or her lawyer will just reinforce her case...as mentioned before, judges are human.

[OneManArmy]

and if that doesn't work.


pee on her.

[MrVicchio]

The court is in Kansas, I am in Texas, do you know how much that would cost me to go up there and sit in court??

[Rbstr]

counter sue in texas

[Giovanni]

Do what? Take on her lawyer in court?

Yeah... that's a bright plan.

Oh... I'm sorry I thought I was talking to a man...

I should get my eyes checked since it looks like you're just a blubbering pussy: "Oh it's in kansas! I'll just let my ex wife have all my god damn money so she can go bang someone else and take care of my kid!"

Fuck make a man out of yourself and look at your options...

1. You do something about it, research your case and might be able to win something out of it.

2. You cry in your corner and admit to your wife she can do you up the ass without you putting up a fight. Wich is basicly gonna lead her to do it more often.

Winning against a lawyer is not unheard of. Make a man of yourself, grow some balls.

[Rbstr]

Gio, Lawyers go to school for how many years to get their JD?

Honestly, what kind of experiance do YOU have in custody cases?

Kansas and Texas are up to 15-16 hours away form eachother.
You go ahead and make that drive to court all the time, while keeping your job.

[OneManArmy]

shit man texas is 15 hours away from itself let alone another state!

and don't mind gio he's still in the I know everything stage.

[Giovanni]

I'm just saying, if he wants to be on his knees for the rest of his life... then yeah... don't fight it.

If you can't afford a god damn lawyer then you defend yourself, get as much info as you can and do the best you can... at worse... you'll have to pay what she asked for... better to die fighting then giving up. Hell if you do something properly you might wind up paying less.

Also, I'm pretty sure there's something you could do about the distance.

[MrVicchio]

Gio, I have a 1500 dollar retainer on a good lawyer. We are building a case to fight the Child support.

I can't just go in there half cocked and try to make "my case" against a trained lawyer, he'd eat me alive if he is half a decent lawyer. I finally got her to make a mistake, now it's time to capitalize.

[Giovanni]

Good boy. I did not have that information.

Hope it goes well for you. I have an uncle in a situation not that different from yours and it's a bitch. Poor guy works two jobs and half his salary goes to that whore of an ex-wife who made him lose his entire business.

[OneManArmy]

I'm just saying, if he wants to be on his knees for the rest of his life... then yeah... don't fight it.


we're talking about taking a lawyer into a judicial battle here, the way you're arguing is to not take a gun to a gun fight because a knife is more macho.

fuck that you gotta have the right tools for the job. You cant cut steak with a spoon and you cant fuck your ex wifes shit up without a good lawyer.

[Peacemaker]

Bring a gun to a lawyer fight?

[OneManArmy]

well of course, I'm all for shooting all the lawyers in the world, but this may not be the place to start the practice...

[Baneblade]

Pfft, Divorce lawyers are settlement bunnies.

[Hamma]

well of course, I'm all for shooting all the lawyers in the world, but this may not be the place to start the practice...

:lol:

[MrVicchio]

Update, my Ex got the letter from the lawyer or the court yesterday or today stating that the case would be brought on Monday, THIS monday seeking a lowering fo the child support AND the addition she got tacked on.

She called my lawyers asking "What the hell is this all about??"

ROFL. I wish I could have been there to see the look on her face.