A Girlfriend thread

[Firefly]

Originally Posted by Jennyboo

No not crap You dont understand the mind of a women. Women over think things make small thing larger then they are. I could be right maybe. But im pretty sure I understand the women mind a little more then most men Believe me women and i can say this we are a pain in the ass and most dont deal with emotions well

You're entitled to your opinion. I'm entitled to tell you you're wrong. I seriously doubt this chick is holding back because she's trying to hold on. She at least kept it real by saying "Let's see what happens."

Obvious Adams time here.

First big sign - she told him the way she felt, about "but nothing... serious. Because I don't know how you're gonna live your life, and neither do I." That means she's not committed. She's not exactly playing the field (at least that you know) but she's not ruling it out as an option. I take it you just graduated high school, or are at least in the vicinity of high school years within a year or two? I'm operating on this presumtion of age for the moment. She's well aware of upcoming freedom and distance. That bullshit about "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"? It's just that - bullshit. She's off doing her thing, which doesn't include you. This is a whole new stage, and things usually don't carry over for very long.

Second big sign - she doesn't say "I love you" back. She doesn't indicate AT ALL that she wants to see Lonehunter when he says he misses her, she doesn't reciprocate. Even if she was trying to downplay what she's feeling, she could at least say "Yeah I miss you too".

Which is why I recommend to you, Lonehunter, that you back off and not say anything of the emotional vein. Don't hang it out there like that, because things lying around tend to get stepped on. Be it your dick or your heart. She's not playing you, but it also seems she's not as attached as she used to be. At least you're not getting strung along.

I'm telling you, man. Let her come to you. She'll notice that you're not pouring it on, and she'll either be relieved or she'll come after you. Either way, you'll get resolution. I'm not saying ditch her, break contact, etc. I'm not saying go out and get some poon in the meantime. Hell, hang on to those feelings because it may be a fluke. And if she comes around, you'll be so much the better. I'm not predicting how it'll turn out, because Jennyboo may be right, and she certainly understands women more than men.

All I'm saying is, don't put it out there to get trounced on. Just hold her to her word of coming to see you when she's in town. If she breaks that, then you know for sure. Until then, be casual. Avoid the emotional stuff. You protect yourself, and you possibly may draw her in when/if she notices you're not being sappy.