Background check: I went out with this girl a year ago for about 6 months, we broke up because we're young and cant drive and 20 miles + a mountain is pretty far. We had literally a year break and two months ago we got back together. In this time she's gone out with 5 guys, one guy for 6 months, had her fun with 4 of them (that one guy is in the middle of the 5...sucks for him). Since we've gone out, she's done weed and started drinking a lot. I for one vowed to never smoke ever again and never to drink during the football season.....ehem...
Now before we started going out again, we had a big arguement which almost killed our 'friendship' (onoes) one that I could blame her for. She was sorry, basically we got together again. This time we both drive and we have very active social lives. I have a sport in which im a starter and work. She has a babysitting job and.....friends (we dont have friends in football).
Now heres what bugs me:
Last month I took her to dinner on a cruise for her birthday (I got it free). We come home, i sleep because I have football the next day, she goes out and gets crunked with her friends for the first time since we've gone out, one of them the 4 that i mentioned above. Ummm ok, i have trust, its your bday, be happy.
We go to disneyland the week after (i'm so rich), enjoy a whole weekend together with the exception of mother and brother. Everything seems fine. We get home, shortly thereafter she has a brveakdown close to what she had before we went out. Being the caring boyfriend, I ask. She says no and starts ignoring me. She later tells me that she rather tell her stoner girl friend, Jessica, about her problems because she understands. Ummm, well I'd still like to know so I wouldn't intrude on uneven ground. "No I wouldn't understand". Fine, I guess I trust your judgement.
Now her 6 month ex, Kenny, gets kicked out of bootcamp because he was stalking my g/f on his cellphone. Why was he kicked? Because his instructor beat the shit out of him.....matter of speaking, the instructor went to jail. Anyways she hates the ex because he's an attention whore, always bitching about dieing and hating life. I agree with him, go die. Well a week ago Jessica wants to go to Kenny's house and she wants my g/f to go with. Later my g/f finds out that Jessica has a thing for Kenny and needs backup. Well they go to a conncert downtown and my g/f becomes backup.
And kisses him.
Ok, when you reach the 3rd "ummmm", that means theres a problem.
She appologised, nearly crying, I said whatever, that third ummmm was a foul ball.. Now we're traveling with no steam. Now today we were watching tv and she left the room for a bit, she got a text message from Kenny saying "ok, call me later when he leaves, I don't want to interferre."
no ummmm this time, this time i'll lay low.
Now i'm questioning everything else. What does she do when she goes out, when she says she's going to bed who does she talk to next, who has she kissed other than me. This is allll flying by my head and I have no clue whether I should do something or let her play her game. In little more than a week I have football camp where I wont be able to see her for 5 days. If Kenny becomes any more of a problem, I don't think I can just sit this incident away with ease.
What should I do if anything......or am I just over reacting considering I just wrote a 7 paragraph essay that half of it I don't even understand.
2006-08-11, 05:08 AM
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