Holy shit im shy.

[Smaug]

Originally Posted by Darksim

its not like I havnt had alchohol, I've been tipsy after drinking a bunch of champagne

Whoa, you're such a rebel.

[JetRaiden]

If youre shy about asking a girl out (assuming you have a chance with her), just bite your lip and approach her, and let it out. You'll get a huge sense of relief afterwards, regardless of what she says.

[MrPaul]

I'm sly. Just remember, girls get shy too (seriously). If there's a girl that you like, and you suspect that she likes you, then don't worry about it. You've got nothing to lose, she says yes, wayhey, she says no, big deal, just means you can move on and not "obcess" about her.
"But if she liked me she'd have asked me out..." Not [neccesarily] true. Half the time I've found that girls are just as, if not more shy than guys when it comes to dating, and asking people out.

[ChewyLSB]

I guess you can call me "shy", although I prefer the term "introverted" or "anti-social". Take your pick.

I mean, I can still make friends, but I can really only become friends with other band losers and such. Such is life.

[ZeusCali]

I find I possess a level of shyness that doesn't envolve rejection. Well atleast not in the lateral current sense of at this momment some one says no. More like I'm unsure of my decisions and their active reprecutions. For example deciding which girl to go out with, what to do on a date. Or deciding which career I want to study up for.

But ontop of that I have a weird introverted complexes of my self image, in short low self-esteem. I always say sorry, either that or make a joke. I was picked on as a kid, I mean like there's the Boys, The Girls, and then there's zach. So nowadays alot of my actions, i'm not sure of. Nor am I sure if I am ugly, cute, handsome, or sexy.

One of my problems is I think to much or so I believe. If someone says I am handsome funny and smart... I write it off as politness.

I guess what I eally want is to be confident of all my actions and therefore I have to what... just live? I am already numb to negative critisism and name calling. What else can I do to "fix" my problem?


*P.S. Can you please correct my english. I don't write it aswell as I used to.
Thank You.

[Triggar]

Originally Posted by ChewyLSB

although I prefer the term "anti-social".

Poor kid.

[ObnoxiousFrog]

I was shy as fuck until today, last period photo class, the girl I sit near came up to me:

"Hey"

Me: "hey"

her: "my friend has a band, and-"

(teacher yells at us, we laugh a little and call him a douchebag)

her: "anyway, this friend of mine, her band is playing at the Grand Slam this weekend, and she needs some people to come, so..."

me: "alright, i don't have anything else to do friday. What kind of music do they play?"

her: "she says that its 'not EXACTLY hardcore'."

me: "haha, not EXACTLY."

her: "she says that the vocals are like Incubus, but the music is heavier."

me: "alright, I'll be there."

Just be yourself, all it is. Some people won't like you for who you are, but hey, you shouldn't try to please everyone, that makes you go crazy in the end.

[MrPaul]

Originally Posted by ZeusCali

I find I possess a level of shyness that doesn't envolve rejection. Well atleast not in the lateral current sense of at this momment some one says no. More like I'm unsure of my decisions and their active reprecutions. For example deciding which girl to go out with, what to do on a date. Or deciding which career I want to study up for.

But ontop of that I have a weird introverted complexes of my self image, in short low self-esteem. I always say sorry, either that or make a joke. I was picked on as a kid, I mean like there's the Boys, The Girls, and then there's zach. So nowadays alot of my actions, i'm not sure of. Nor am I sure if I am ugly, cute, handsome, or sexy.

One of my problems is I think to much or so I believe. If someone says I am handsome funny and smart... I write it off as politness.

Man, that is so me. But I tend to flip between super outgoing, to very introverted. I think I'm more outgoing than I used to be.

I guess all I can say is, relax. Put behind you what people used to say. If someone says something positive about you, accept it, revel in it. If you need to, you can remember them saying it if you get down. It sounds tsupid but some people find it really helps.

If you get to the stage where you think "too much," then just chill, and try to think of yourself floating in a big white room. Just floating. It really calms you down and if you do it right you can enter a near meditational state. That's not the way I stopped thinking too much, however. The way I'm taking takes a lot more effort and you really have to be 16 or under to take it; study physics etc at uni and learn about how things (the universe) works. Of course, you may not be thinking about the universe, if you're thinking about other people, you may want to take a short course, or even just read up on, in Social Studies or Psychology.

Just a couple of tips.

[internetn]

I was fuggin pimp in kindergarden (Im kinda shamed to admit that) and all was good for me up untill 4 grade... Well I kinda started turning into the bully type and a lot of little kids.. at the time liked me for that... My parents on the other hand didn't like picking me up from school early, thus they homeschooled me... for 4 fuckin years, there went middle school, (argueably the most influencial stages of a persons life) and smack dab into highschool...
Well the beginning of my 1st semester of my freshman year was so horrible, I knew only one person,(or could only really remeber one, curse my bad memory) and it was hell untill about 4 weeks before christmas... Then I found out that this girl had a crush on me since the 2 grade and we went out.. for 2 weeks.. I later found out I had a problem with commitment.. so my next girlfriend lasted about 2-3 weeks and most of the ones after that were the same... then came the summer... which was prob the worst time in my life.. I went out with this girl the hole summer... She made me a nervous wreck, I felt like I was married.... So I broke up with her at the beginning of my soph. year.. prob was that she was friends with like all the hottest girls in school, and so they thought I was a jerk.. well I decided not to go out with another girl untill either I pass my physics class... or I get my license.. and well My parents hate me and wouldnt let me get my license, and I failed physics (BTW they made me take it in the 10 grade..... crazy!).. So I get my license in about three more months (...2 months before I turn 18...grr) and Im still not passing physics... But hell Im not anti social... but I have developed a few enemies cause I wouldnt drink with them... I got a career path.. and I did some crazy things when I got drunk so... the two don;t mix... Anyways dont care about what people think of you, take a baseball bat to the world for all I care... just find some random girl, whisper romantic things into her ear... have fun and live your life!! (PS: Dump her in like a month, or else she will expect presents in such, just a general thing)

[Rbstr]

Originally Posted by Derfud

I am shy most of the time, especially around someone I am attracted to.

yeah, me to, but mainly i just don't initiate conversations I need to get invited/pulled in somehow.

Except here, talking on PSU about stuff i think has helped my allowin social interation without shyness it's like a buffer.

It's wierd how the internet strips almost every possible discriminatory/embarasing/stereotypey thing except illiteracy.

[Biohazzard56]

Triggar is 110% right, I had to get over my shyness a couple years ago. Simply put, ask a girl to straddle you.

[Kyonye]

i'm never shy...anymore atleast. i noticed it killed life in general to not be able to talk to people and meet new people. but i lost my shyness when i was like 10 so i've been very social every since.

just go out and do it, the more you wait, the worse it gets....so get your ass out and just start talking to people. be yourself, if they don't like it, fuck 'em...if they do, hang out with them more.

[Wraithlord]

Originally Posted by Triggar

No, you just need to get over it.

It's that simple.

Just get over it.

Realise that in all likelihood, people are not going to make fun of you or reject you, and even if they do, the hell with them. Who cares. No one's going to make fun of you or resent you for going out on a limb for any reason. And again, if anyone is, the hell with them.

So I repeat my advice. Just get over it. It really is that easy. The problem is all in your head.

Its not that easy.
I suppose that anyone who is an extrovert like yourself would have problems seeing why asocial individuals feel the way they do, I understand what hes saying perfectly, I've been "shy" my whole life, and have been told in fewer or more words that same advice, it isnt that easy trig, some people are just hardwired to be "shy", its not a fear of being made fun of or anything ridiculous like that, its just that being all outgoing and cheery to everyone has the same appeal to me as skinning my genitals while being raped by a 300 pound hells angel. Oh yeah, getting drunk does work too

[Biohazzard56]

The way I personally got over my shyness is having alot of friends and just talking to a whole bunch of girls. Then there was a girl named Samantha that I liked and I asked her out, which was the toughest part. She said yes and we went out for about two months and after that I wasnt shy anymore. If you like a girl your attraction to her will overcome your shyness.

And the whole straddle me thing was a pickup line of my friends, funny story, I may post it sometime.

[AztecWarrior]

"I'm not anti-social, I just hate you." is my credo when dealing with most people from my generation, i.e. ghetto thugz.

I am shy on top of it, but won't let that prevent me from doing what I want- though it is hard to overcome that barrier.