[SHIT]Another girly problem thread (its kind of interesting, I swear)

JetRaiden · 2004-11-22, 01:32 PM

Shit guys, I got myself in quite a situation. I got myself mixed up with like 3-4 girls, basically at the same time. Here's the dealio:

Girl #1(Kelsey)- Has been a good friend for a little while now. Got to know her has she was kind of going out with my friend spencer. She lived in michigan, and there's no way it would work out (seeing that spencer and I are in rhode island). So after about 5 months or so Spencer meets this other girl Sarah and starts going out with her. If you remember this thread, spencer was in a similar situation, of which Kelsey never found out about. I talked to Spencer about it a couple times, and he apparently likes this girl Sarah alot. He decides he's gonna have to break up with Kelsey. This is where I come in. Kelsey and I talk on AIM just about everyday, sometimes for hours. I know that as soon as Spencer does this, I needed to swoop in and comfort Kelsey as best I can. Kelsey was also supposed to come to boston this week, which wouldve been the first time she's seen Spencer since july.
A thought occurred. Maybe I can go to Boston instead of Spencer, and pick her up on the rebound? I wasn't sure if this was a bad idea. But after calling spencer after the first conversation with kelsey after the break up, he SUGGESTED it to ME. All systems go.

Girl #2 (Erica): Random girl I made out with at a party halloween weekend (ask infernus). She was really hot, and by the end of the night we both figured we would both be going out in a matter of days. Well a few weeks later, I still haven't seen her, plans just kept falling through every weekend. I still kept in touch with her on a regular basis, but there just didn't seem to be much magic there so to speak. I was hoping things would pick up again the next time I saw her.

Girl #3 (Kelly): This is the big one. This girl I went out with for about 6 months, and ended it before school started. We kept talking after that for a while. Finally, things got out of hand. I told her that I didn't ever want to talk to her again, because she was driving me crazy. She seemed like a careless, insensitive bitch. I blocked her sn, deleted any pictures I might've had of her, and forgot about her. 2 days ago she made a different screenname and IMed me. She said she was so sorry for everything and that she really loved me, and didnt realize it until recently. This came as quite a shock. She was really broken up over everything, so I agreed to see her again. I'm not sure if we're officialy "together" or what yet. Its all so confusing.

Girl #4(Amanda): I never actually knew her that well at all. I met her a year ago at a concert and instantly became obsessed with her. Even then I was still pretty shy with girls, so I was reluctant to make a move. I've known her friend Ainsley for years now, and one day about 5 months later she decided that me spencer her and amanda are all gonna go out. By the time I thought I was over her. I was dead wrong. I was still crazy about her, yet still pretty shy to really do anything. So a few months pass, and I'm at spencer's beachhouse for the summer. Again, I find myself thinking about her. Im like "this is fucking ridiculous." ANd tell spencer to invite her and a few other people over. So at the end of the summer she comes, and I get a chance to hang out with her a bit. I got things rolling again. she gave me her number and left around 1030. A week or so later I found out she thought I was hot. Fucking score. Again, a couple months pass and nothing's happened. Apparently I was expected to ask her out a few days after that little get together at the beachhouse. Shit. So I found out she was working at this concert sometime in october. I IM her about a week beforehand, and find ou what it is (didn't realy matter what it was, I was gonna go anyway). She was giving me the whole "oh you should come" and stuff. At this point I was at boarding school and the concert was on a tuesday. Great. I arranged to go home on tuesday for the concert. I picked her out of the crowd instantly. I walk over to her, and talk to her for a little while. She obviously knew I still cared about her, being that I went way out of my way to go to the concert just for her. I recently decied (before the Kelly, Kelsey, or Erica thing) that I was going to make something happen. Soon after that everything came to a hault, and thats where I am now.

Advice please.

also: pics to come shortly

Giovanni · 2004-11-22, 01:37 PM

My advice to you is to follow your hearth and if you fuck up it's part of life. You grow more if you learn to make you're own decisions.

We can't decide for your hearth, listen to it and what happens, happens.

JetRaiden · 2004-11-22, 01:38 PM

true. maybe I shouldve made this a poll.

Pilgrim · 2004-11-22, 01:41 PM

Go Gay

It's the only way that no one but your anus gets hurt

Kikinchikin · 2004-11-22, 01:41 PM

What are you looking for? If you actually think you could have a long term relationship with any of them (and you want to), then go with that one. Otherwise go with whichever girl is more fun to be around. And don't bother with the Michigan girl except maybe to just see her as a friend. I don't see long distance working for anyone still in school.
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at pilgrim

JetRaiden · 2004-11-22, 01:47 PM

Originally Posted by KiKiNCHiKiN

What are you looking for? If you actually think you could have a long term relationship with any of them (and you want to), then go with that one. Otherwise go with whichever girl is more fun to be around. And don't bother with the Michigan girl except maybe to just see her as a friend. I don't see long distance working for anyone still in school.
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at pilgrim

I'm just looking to resolve this while hurting as few people as possible. I'm not gonna put myself in specer's space w/ Kelsey, thats definately not an option. I think things with Erica will eventually collapse (hopefully before she really likes me), and Amanda and Kelly are the only girls that I could see myself with in the long run.

Infernus · 2004-11-22, 01:52 PM

Originally Posted by Pilgrim

Go Gay

It's the only way that no one but your anus gets hurt

Oh to dream.... *droll*

In all seriousness this is why I fear relationships...

Jennyboo · 2004-11-22, 02:10 PM

Screwing up is a part of life.. You at least have to get 1 out of the 4 right

JetRaiden · 2004-11-22, 02:11 PM

Originally Posted by Jennyboo

Screwing up is a part of life.. You at least have to get 1 out of the 4 right

thats what I was just thinking.

I Hate Pants · 2004-11-22, 02:17 PM

Who would you say is the hottest?

JetRaiden · 2004-11-22, 02:19 PM

Originally Posted by I Hate Pants

Who would you say is the hottest?

thats pretty tough

I think amanda probably, then maybe kelly is a little more then erica. and kelsey fits somewhere in on the mix.

Kyonye · 2004-11-22, 02:34 PM

so a....pics coming soon?

for real though...what giovanni said is probably the best so far...go with your heart. it is possible for you heart to be wrong, i won't lie about that. but like he said, if you fuck up, its part of life. you grow from your mistakes.

MrPaul · 2004-11-22, 02:34 PM

Can I make one of these threads, too?

Anyway, I'm gonna agree with Kikin on this one, he said exactly what I was thinking.

Breed · 2004-11-22, 02:36 PM

Ok, firstly you need to know what you want in life.

Do you want a long-term relationship? A new friend? Or do you just want to fullfil a few basic needs?

Get an idea of what you want then you can better make these decisions yourself.

JetRaiden · 2004-11-22, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by Breed

Ok, firstly you need to know what you want in life.

Do you want a long-term relationship? A new friend? Or do you just want to fullfil a few basic needs?

Get an idea of what you want then you can better make these decisions yourself.

thats the thing...I'm not really sure what Im looking for. I guess you can say a long term relationship, because its bound to come out of one of em.