Advice-Don't Laugh

TheN00b · 2004-10-31, 03:36 PM

OK, here's the bloody problem. Now, I know perfectly well that the vast majority of you are older than me (I'm 13, for those who don't know). I also know that, while I've been here for a while, I'm not anywhere near the likes of Trig and Co. in terms of notoriety. So I'm banking my reputation here on the premise that, upon seeing my problem, you won't laugh your asses off and tell me what a bleeding likkle kid I am; a lot of you probably aren't too removed from where I am. Here goes:

So, the whole liking bullshit aside, how do you handle being asked out for your first ever date? *Braces for tide of laughter*. Seriously, I need help. Like, hell, she's nice and all, and I'm kewl with going out, but I don't know; a) how to reply and b) what to do on the date (Preemptive response to Ivan and Squeeky: for Godssake, man, I'm an innocent thirteen-year old!). I need help, and I'm asking people who I see as both mature and wise (God help me). Any advice/tips (Ivan and Squeeky, see above).

JetRaiden · 2004-10-31, 03:48 PM

oh man....I guess my advice is, do whatever comes naturally, but at the same time play it cool.

MrPaul · 2004-10-31, 03:48 PM

First off. Say yes.
As for the date, you can't go far wrong with the cinema. Don't go to lazerquest or paintball.

Jennyboo · 2004-10-31, 03:52 PM

So if you like her your anwer would be yes

and if you dont your answer would be no, As for the date ask her what she'd like to do. If funds permit a movie out is always good and if funds dont permit. Invite her over to watch a movie(get to know her) keep it clean and fun. If the movie isent a great idea again ask her what she'd like to do (im sure if shhe asked you out she has something in mind) JUst go with the flow

be cool

TheN00b · 2004-10-31, 03:56 PM

Yay! Thanks for all the excellent replies; I don't believe I can actually find words to what it means (damn...)... Jet, shut up

. But I'll take your and Paul's advice; it's probably good. Jenny, thanks for dat. I'm not huge movie fan, but it's kewl; as long as it's not horror (damn genes, I can't handle that stuff at all

). Any way you guys can think of of tactfully steering movie choices (heh, I sound like those Dear Abby nuts)?

WritheNC · 2004-10-31, 03:56 PM

1. Be yourself. You're only 13, so don't be afraid to talk about your interests as well as hers.

2. Don't take the date too seriously. Someone told my friend this when he started high school to date as many girls as he can because it's only high school. Then, when you're older and go to college, you know what kind of girl you want to be with.

3. Be a gentleman. It probably doesn't really factor in at this age, but get some practice. It's good to have manners; it makes a good impression on women.

Baneblade · 2004-10-31, 03:59 PM

Don't 'make it work', it either will or it won't. But it is nice to be respectful.

MrPaul · 2004-10-31, 04:00 PM

If you wanna be soppy (I don't recommend this for a first date, when you really wanna get to know her (ok, shouldn't happen at 13, but you never know):
A walk in the countryside/ nature reserve is nice if she has some class. I took my girlfriend to this derelict barn full of hay when I wanted to talk to her once. We sat in it, with an amazing view (miles and miles of fields, green, brown and yellow) and a reservoir and forest. After an hour or two a light mist descended and we watched the sun go down. Only problem was getting home! (no moon, in the middle of the countryside!)

3. Be a gentleman. It probably doesn't really factor in at this age, but get some practice. It's good to have manners; it makes a good impression on women.

So true!!

As for the film, how about a comedy? I don't know what you have stateside as you're always way ahead of us.

TheN00b · 2004-10-31, 04:03 PM

Originally Posted by WritheNC

1. Be yourself. You're only 13, so don't be afraid to talk about your interests as well as hers.

2. Don't take the date too seriously. Someone told my friend this when he started high school to date as many girls as he can because it's only high school. Then, when you're older and go to college, you know what kind of girl you want to be with.

3. Be a gentleman. It probably doesn't really factor in at this age, but get some practice. It's good to have manners; it makes a good impression on women.

Great advice. It's very amusing at my school; unlike a lot of the others, guys who have no class get utterly rejected. Good fun to see dumb jocks burn.

Sobeukus, nice advice! I'll remember that.

As to Paul... Why go home?

MrPaul · 2004-10-31, 04:07 PM

Originally Posted by TheN00b

As to Paul... Why go home?

I'll give you the honest reason:
It was dark, we were snuggling up.
*meepmeep*
"what the fuck was that?"
*meepmeep*
/something stirs
"holyfuckingshit its-a-rat!"
/girlfriend runs
/me runs

JetRaiden · 2004-10-31, 04:13 PM

wtf

TheN00b · 2004-10-31, 04:16 PM

Originally Posted by MrPaul

I'll give you the honest reason:
It was dark, we were snuggling up.
*meepmeep*
"what the fuck was that?"
*meepmeep*
/something stirs
"holyfuckingshit its-a-rat!"
/girlfriend runs
/me runs

Boomer · 2004-10-31, 04:18 PM

Well.. it really doesnt matter what movie it is, trust me. I just turned 14 in october.

Some advice from someone a little older....

1. Scary movies are very good and give you an excuse to cuddle up.
2. Being a gentleman is definately a good idea.
3. The best thing to do is take a long walk. Long walks result in long friendships.

one question. Are your parents ok with this?

TheN00b · 2004-10-31, 04:28 PM

Originally Posted by Bugger

1. Scary movies are very good and give you an excuse to cuddle up.

Originally Posted by TheN00b

I'm not huge movie fan, but it's kewl; as long as it's not horror (damn genes, I can't handle that stuff at all

).

No.

But thanks for the other advice. Yeah, I'm assuming they're OK with it; they said I could date once I was 13. Seems a little late, but whatev's.

Triggar · 2004-10-31, 04:33 PM

If you want to score some massive chick points, take her to see Shark Tale - you won't have to worry about awkward love scenes or anything like that.

Or, if your parents want to rent a movie for you, I'd recommend something safe like "The Princess Bride" or "Catch Me If You Can".

It would also be cute for you to pair a movie with a classic - like a meal. If you can't actually go out to dinner (or if you're broke), I'd recommend whipping up something cute like popcorn chicken with a honey mustard sauce and some ice cream. I'm sure your parents would help you out financially

As for the actual date - here's some platinum advice dished out from your favorite woman named Angela Cimato - awkwardness is something that you imagine. It's like monsters in the closet - if you realise that it isn't really there (and isn't going to materialize anytime soon), you won't act all weird. If there's a silence, you won't tweak out thinking that she thinks you're boring. Be cool, and ask her a lot of questions. Make her talk more than you do - people love to talk about themselves, remember that.

Good luck! (And smell nice!)