Tips for getting out of the dreaded "good friend" stage

Zetre · 2003-06-20, 01:57 AM

Ok, so i'm really starting to dig this friend of mine. I've been talking to her for like a year now, and I thought we were somewhere beyond friends, but apperently not, because she called me a "good friend" last night. Now, i'm not extremely expirienced in this area, but as far as i've seen, the "good friend" thing is like a death sentence for a relationship beyond, well, friends. Now, if any of you have any marvelous tips for getting outa this, or tips on good date ideas, i guess this would just be the thread to share your expertice.

Doobz · 2003-06-20, 01:59 AM

eh, ask her out

Zetre · 2003-06-20, 02:02 AM

i kind of did already, but that failed. It's weird with her, cause she hasn't really had a boyfriend before. She's really shy, and kind of weird, so she hasn't "dated" a guy before. I've said i liked her, but that didn't work either. I've done numerous things with her, but it's just weird. Hard trying to get a girl you don't see a lot, and have gotten to be pretty good friends with to "go out" with you.

TekDragon · 2003-06-20, 02:03 AM

no, No, NO, and NO

Girls are tricky little fuks. If she said you were a "good friend" then thats what she means. In my experience it means that your a good person that she feels comfortable being around and talking to.

Believe me, shes not looking to for more. Trust me man, ive lost 2 "good friends" by trying to push that shit. It aint worth it.

Youll know when a girl really wants it. They will make it so painfully obvious that any moron could see it. If they dont, then your stuck with a friend.

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Just out of curiosity why are you trying to go from "good friend" to something more? Is it the pussy? You can be honest w me.

The President · 2003-06-20, 02:06 AM

Alright man I deffinetly hear where your coming from. I consider myself to be pretty learned in the area of the female gender, and because of this I have come to a realization that many men before me have come to, they're fucked up. The dreaded "good friend" title is the ultimate cock-block, the death sentence for any relationship hopeful. As it goes chicks become to accustomed to a male figure always being there for them, the shoulder to cry on, etc. Girls gravitate towards the asshole, the one who treats them like shit and doesnt give them the time of day. These are the men who get the most ass. I dunno it could be the fact that girls feel this is something they cant have thus they go after it, one will never truly know. Once you learn to not give them that extra inch you will be in control. Oh yes my friend there were days when I was the "good friend", but those days have come to an end. I have unlimited respect for the female race, women are beautiful to me and I treat them super well when I'm with them. But you must learn to keep the asshole ethos always near, the smallest sense of noninterest attracts them, you have to be above it. Dont be a cock to them cuz then you are just that...a cock. But you must learn to acquire an equilibrium between the two states...The guy whose above it all, and the guy whos the all around nice guy and shoulder to cry. Once you have accomplished this, you are truly the master of your domain man. Good luck.

-The President

Zetre · 2003-06-20, 02:08 AM

no, just a good relationship. Unfortunately, no pussy from her, she's a devout catholic. HAHA, no premarridal sex. I still don't understand why i, an extemely left winged anitchristian kid, can like her a, republican catholic. Ah, whatever, thanks for the advice dragon. I was thinking the same thing, just didn't want to admit it

The President · 2003-06-20, 02:11 AM

Alright fuck it dude, you can say "oh i can look beyond not getting any, bullshit man" eventually you will need it and you will either become desperate or resort to cheap prostitution.
Is she a crazy-Catholic, like super devout, like no rounding of bases ( not to sound childish but im trying to rationalize)?

-The President

Doobz · 2003-06-20, 02:13 AM

haha, when i read that above i constantly have this steven seagal vision in my head, balding guy with a pony tail and a gold chain, sipping on a martini and winking to the 22 year old at the bar

TekDragon · 2003-06-20, 02:13 AM

Originally posted by The President The dreaded "good friend" title is the ultimate cock-block, the death sentence for any relationship hopeful. As it goes chicks become to accustomed to a male figure always being there for them, the shoulder to cry on, etc.

Yep

Originally posted by The President Girls gravitate towards the asshole, the one who treats them like shit and doesnt give them the time of day. These are the men who get the most ass.

*sigh* Yep.

But you must learn to keep the asshole ethos always near, the smallest sense of noninterest attracts them, you have to be above it. Dont be a cock to them cuz then you are just that...a cock. But you must learn to acquire an equilibrium between the two states...The guy whose above it all, and the guy whos the all around nice guy and shoulder to cry. Once you have accomplished this, you are truly the master of your domain man. Good luck.

A-fuken-men.

But dont try too hard to attain that equilebrium. Its good if your hitting the bar/club and want some ass. If your willing to wait until you find "Miss Right" then just chill, be yourself, and you WILL find her.

Zetre · 2003-06-20, 02:13 AM

I understand where you are comming from, but i can stick with the cheap prostitustion, and countless hours of porn. It's not her looks, her breasts, or her booty i like. I just find that being around her is amazingly fun. She's smart, funny, and just all around cool. Sure, i'm atracted to her, but that's not the main reason i like her.

�io · 2003-06-20, 02:18 AM

Originally posted by The President
Alright man I deffinetly hear where your coming from. I consider myself to be pretty learned in the area of the female gender, and because of this I have come to a realization that many men before me have come to, they're fucked up. The dreaded "good friend" title is the ultimate cock-block, the death sentence for any relationship hopeful. As it goes chicks become to accustomed to a male figure always being there for them, the shoulder to cry on, etc. Girls gravitate towards the asshole, the one who treats them like shit and doesnt give them the time of day. These are the men who get the most ass. I dunno it could be the fact that girls feel this is something they cant have thus they go after it, one will never truly know. Once you learn to not give them that extra inch you will be in control. Oh yes my friend there were days when I was the "good friend", but those days have come to an end. I have unlimited respect for the female race, women are beautiful to me and I treat them super well when I'm with them. But you must learn to keep the asshole ethos always near, the smallest sense of noninterest attracts them, you have to be above it. Dont be a cock to them cuz then you are just that...a cock. But you must learn to acquire an equilibrium between the two states...The guy whose above it all, and the guy whos the all around nice guy and shoulder to cry. Once you have accomplished this, you are truly the master of your domain man. Good luck.

-The President

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TekDragon · 2003-06-20, 02:18 AM

Originally posted by Zetre
Ah, whatever, thanks for the advice dragon. I was thinking the same thing, just didn't want to admit it

Dood.. i got teared up just reading that. I know exactly the thoughts and emotions goin through your head.

Just trust me man.. having a "good friend" isnt a bad thing, not at all. Cultivate it, cherish it, dont lose it. Having a girl that trusts you, that you can open up to and she can do the same with you is a great fukin thing.

Loosing all that to something as petty and selfish as wanting "more" is a horrible thing that will haunt you for many months, if not years. I know from first hand experience.

As an added bonus, shes a safe "fall back" plan. If you ever gettin close to a deadline for a party and you dont got a date, you can always explain the situation to a "good friend" and she'll go with you

Just keep your common sence in check on your 7th beer.

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I just find that being around her is amazingly fun. She's smart, funny, and just all around cool. Sure, i'm atracted to her, but that's not the main reason i like her.

You silly fuk, dont even THINK of losing something like that!

WildEagle · 2003-06-20, 02:18 AM

word

The President · 2003-06-20, 02:19 AM

Alright then more power to you buddy. I know girls can make you feel like shit some times but don't let it get you down man. I hope all this shit works out for you. You seem to be honestly attracted to her, so do what i do man, be honest..yeah sometimes the answer hurts but its the best way to go. Talk to her man. Good luck, and if you need anymore advice were here man.

-The President

WildEagle · 2003-06-20, 02:20 AM

Originally posted by Zetre
Sure, i'm atracted to her, but that's not the main reason i like her.

So what's teh reason for the

for her"?