A Girlfriend thread

[Lonehunter]

I can't believe I'm doing this, I've always read other post about this and tried to help out. Never thought I would

I'll try to keep it short/simple

Girl started working with me, liked this girl, asked her out. Knowing that she would have to go to college in about a month and a half later, but I thought why not see what happens.

Then I completely and totally fall for this girl, and she me. Took about 2 hours to say goodbye the night that she left.

Until that night we hadn't talked about what would happen to "us" when she left. After much talking she said "how bout this, we'll keep in touch. I'll see you when I come in, but nothing... serious. Because I don't know how you're gonna live your life, and neither do I."

So we talk every day, MSN or phone. From our conversations you'd think we where still a connected couple.


Now I HATE having a girl that's too far to see. I like to be close, (I'm not a pussy I swear). Her being away drives me nuts, and her being around hundreads of college guys. Most of her friends are guys btw. She goes to church and all her friends say she's the most honest person they know, but I still worry.

What's driven me to worry lately is little things. When ever I say I love her, or miss her, or want to see her: she replies with something like "I know". Not that she wants to.

Of coarse this could be simple human paranoia, but I'll see her for the first time in a month this weekend. I'm thinking about closing all connections what so ever, because I can't take the torture of a dangeling, half-way relationship. No friends, no talk occasionaly, because I know I'll always have feelings for her. That will get in the way of me moving on.


So now I have succeeded in embarassing myself, I just want to run this idea by some other minds to see if there are any details I seem to be overlooking before I lose her.

[Jennyboo]

Originally Posted by Lonehunter187

What's driven me to worry lately is little things. When ever I say I love her, or miss her, or want to see her: she replies with something like "I know". Not that she wants to.

Her short replies could just be the fact that she trying to hold her emotions together..that in fact she misses you and much as you miss her. But let face it your not just around the coner so she trying to keep her mind of the face that she misses you. If in fact if you both Love eachother like you say love has a way of working things out. I know kinda corny but this just could be a test of your Love if you were meant to be together in the end after college things will work out. Keep talking to her...maybe when she comes home talk to her about how you feel. Tell her "she's impossible to get over" that you dont think you can move on. If she wants to remain friends though this least be her friends(You need to be friends first). Just give it time..It's hard I know but life has a way of sorting Love out. It just may take some time

[Mag-Mower]

Arent you going to college? Well, I say wait till you see her again before you make any descisions. See her this weekend, evaluate the situation then. Good? Bad? You decide what you want.

[Giovanni]

Oh hell no!

Don't fall for the friend bullshit if you ever break-up. You know why? It's quite simple, it's fucking painfull. Why? Because if you really like her... then your gonna have to stand by and watch her hug someone else, kiss someone else or hell even hear about her fuck someone else.

I was trying to remain friends with my ex and guess what... it didn't take two days till I told her to fuck off...

It's really painfull to see someone you loved and still sort of love go with someone else and get on with their lives and for some odd reason you just can't let it go...

But that's just me being pessimistic... I'd honestly say: Dump the bitch before she dumps you.

[Mag-Mower]

Originally Posted by Giovanni

Oh hell no!

Don't fall for the friend bullshit if you ever break-up. You know why? It's quite simple, it's fucking painfull. Why? Because if you really like her... then your gonna have to stand by and watch her hug someone else, kiss someone else or hell even hear about her fuck someone else.

I was trying to remain friends with my ex and guess what... it didn't take two days till I told her to fuck off...

It's really painfull to see someone you loved and still sort of love go with someone else and get on with their lives and for some odd reason you just can't let it go...

But that's just me being pessimistic... I'd honestly say: Dump the bitch before she dumps you.

I agree, except for one thing. Dont leave her if she still wants you, but if you feel that the relationship is doing poorly, do what gio said. It would be difficult for you to be friends if you still have feelings for her.

[Hamma]

Long distance relationships suck ass. I feel your pain.

Size up the situation when you see her then decide the path to take imo.

[Jennyboo]

Originally Posted by Hamma

Long distance relationships suck ass. I feel your pain.

Size up the situation when you see her then decide the path to take imo.

Hamma and I were at that point it was very hard on both of us ....Thats why we got Married so fast jk Getting married sholved it though

[MattxMosh]

Originally Posted by Jennyboo

Hamma and I were at that point it was very hard on both of us ....Thats why we got Married so fast jk Getting married sholved it though

haha that sounds familiar.

[Hamma]

[Infernus]

Its college...

She moved away.


I hate to break it to you man, but you can't expect her to stay chained (and totally loyal) to a guy she'll comparatively rarely see.

[Setari]

The funny part is, before college is typically when people split so they can have fun at school. Seeing something the opposite is sort of amusing in a mean sort of way.

[LimpBIT]

I would have to go with Gios idea. Dont try and stay friends with her, it only makes things worse.

[Firefly]

Originally Posted by Jennyboo

Her short replies could just be the fact that she trying to hold her emotions together..that in fact she misses you and much as you miss her. But let face it your not just around the coner so she trying to keep her mind of the face that she misses you.

Sorry, but that's crap.

Dude - if a significant other doesn't say it back, don't say it unless it's as a reply. IE, make her come to you with that shit. Throwing yourself out there like that not only makes it all uncomfortable, but it also makes you feel bad later. Trust me, I've been there and done that.

From both sides, actually.

[Jennyboo]

Originally Posted by Firefly

Sorry, but that's crap.

No not crap You dont understand the mind of a women. Women over think things make small thing larger then they are. I could be right maybe. But im pretty sure I understand the women mind a little more then most men Believe me women and i can say this we are a pain in the ass and most dont deal with emotions well

[Hamma]

here here, women are a pain in the ass.